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Jeannie Campanelli, Ed.D., CPCC Articles

Written by: Jeannie Campanelli, Ed.D., CPCC

The Gift of Time - Click To Read Article
As givers, we know very well what it's like to give the precious gift of time to others in a myriad of ways. This gift of time is not to be taken for granted; it is to be highly valued.

When Defensiveness Shows Up - Click To Read Article
In November, 2007 I wrote about defensiveness and have found that, more than any other article that I’ve written, people commented on this one. I believe it’s because all of us know what it feels like to want to defend ourselves. Even if we're not actively defensive, the urge to defend our feelings, thoughts, and/or actions is part and parcel of being human. And often, this defensiveness creates even more disconnection and conflict than what we truly want.

A Beautiful and Loving Life - Click To Read Article
Is this the most beautiful and loving life you can possibly imagine and create? If it isn’t, this question becomes – what is the most beautiful and loving life that you can possibly imagine and create?

The Power of Support - Click To Read Article
It may sound like a paradox - being ‘in need’ of support to claim your own life or ‘leaning on’ others in order to stand on one’s own - and life is about paradoxes. What I observe and have experienced is that opening to the support that is there for us allows us to move forward with an ease and grace that might not have been present otherwise. The foundation of life is all about love.

Making it Real - Click To Read Article
An old friend of mine shared, "I marvel at what my friends teach me". She wasn't talking about learning from her many friends how to improve her gardening skills or understanding more deeply the complexities of politics. She was addressing the emotional charges, the judgmental thoughts, the highs and lows of relating to others and what she learns about herself through such exchanges. She holds herself 100% accountable for her growth in relating to others from a place of real curiosity and a commitment to love.

Anger Rising - Click To Read Article
Anger is a feeling that is or has been a challenge for most of us to accept and express in healthy ways. Collectively, we receive a multitude of messages about anger being ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ or ‘wrong’.

The Confidence to Let Go - Click To Read Article
It’s a challenge to really let go of our own private agendas. In working with clients, I often explore each opposite: “I want it my way” and “I let go”. These two points of view can fight it out within all of us and show up in our relationships with others.

Taking a “Processing” Break - Click To Read Article
What do I mean by processing? Evaluating, judging, blaming, comparing, worrying, 'trying hard' to think one's way out of a problem, analyzing, getting caught up in the why’s - all are ways that, as humans, we can process with our minds.

Is It Just Me? - Click To Read Article
A client asked out loud a question that, I’m sure, many of us have thought in our own minds. “Is it just me? Why am I so sensitive? Why do I have so much mind chatter? Why are my feelings so on the surface? Is everyone like that?”

Slowing Down - A Pathway to Inner Confidence - Click To Read Article
It is safe to assume that all of us know the feeling of our days flying by. For myself, I busily coach and in between sessions complete my list of daily To Do’s - both for my business and for my personal life. I enjoy feeling engaged and productive - it’s a natural part of my personality. When I’m in the creative flow and building a sense of momentum in moving forward, I feel good. At the close of an active day as I allow myself to truly stop and rest, I realize that it would have been okay for me to slow down in between my coaching. Yes, it was gratifying to get things done, and I can take my time - trusting that what truly needs to get done will get done eventually.

Honouring Our Resourcefulness - Click To Read Article
In the midst of difficult times, we can forget the special resource living deeply within us that has brought us through situations when we felt pressured or trapped or challenged. This inner resource, available to everyone, is a source of solidity and strength that lives at the core of us and can carry us through adversity. It shows up uniquely when we remember to tap into it. Knowing how to reach it is important in building a sense of self-trust.

How to Be with Insecurity? - Click To Read Article
As an inner confidence coach, I often hear clients voice their frustration about feelings of insecurity. The inner critic is angry that they’re even feeling insecure - that they can’t get rid of that old feeling following them in places where they don’t want it to go. I understand. I, too, know about insecurity. And what I’ve learned through my years of working with this issue - within myself and with many, many people in the education, counseling and now coaching fields - is that it is natural and human to feel insecure. Everyone does - at times and usually in certain areas.

The Power of YES! - Click To Read Article
The choices we make about what we say to ourselves and others profoundly impact the quality of our lives. I notice in myself and my clients that saying the word, “YES,” increases our energy level. ‘Yes’ peels away resistance and helps us to move downstream. With yes in the forefront, we easily flow with the river of life instead of against it. The weight of struggling our way through whatever is happening lifts, and life becomes so much easier.

Saying Goodbye to Defensiveness - Click To Read Article
Part of fully claiming your own life is learning the steps to stay “in your own business”. What that means essentially is staying focused on your own affairs, rather than determining what those around you “should” or “should not” be up to.

THE GIFT OF LOVING YOURSELF FIRST - Click To Read Article
Many loving, naturally-giving people experience an imbalance in their flow of giving and receiving. They give easily; it’s receiving from others that is challenging. Unlike those who have difficulty considering others, this message is addressed to those who disregard considering themselves!

The Only Object of Life - Click To Read Article
Margaret Fuller wrote: “Very early, I knew that the only object in life was to grow.” I love this quote and imagine this perspective had a profound impact on the quality of her life. If each of us shared Margaret’s outlook and truly lived from this perspective in all of its fullness, what would be different for us and those whom we touch? There are many possibilities.

Creating Boundaries or Barriers – Where do You Hang Out? - Click To Read Article
What I’ve seen as a professional coach is that much of our personal power (‘claiming our life as our own’) relies on setting clear boundaries – listening to our own values, asking for help, and knowing what we want and don’t want. There’s an art to setting boundaries that do not become barriers to love and closeness.

BEING IN INTEGRITY - Click To Read Article
"The Forming – Storming – Norming – Performing model of group development was first proposed by Bruce Tuckman in 1965, who maintained that these phases are all necessary and inevitable in order for the team to grow, to face up to challenges, to tackle problems, to find solutions, to plan work, and to deliver results. This model has become the basis for subsequent models of group development and team dynamics and a management theory frequently used to describe the behavior of existing teams". ..... Wikipedia

What’s Complaining Really About? - Click To Read Article
What I have noticed is that many of us confuse being responsible with feeling accountable. How do we do that? Let’s begin with clarifying the distinction between both qualities.

The Value of Setting Intentions - Click To Read Article
My belief is that the distinction between setting an intention versus setting a goal is that goals can sometimes be in the land of “should” or come from a place of need. Intentions are all about identifying what is our heart’s path. For example, a goal might be framed by such language as: “I should lose weight. Eat healthfully. Exercise regularly. Change my career. Take care of myself. And then I’ll feel okay about myself.”

The Ultimate Wealth - Click To Read Article
What is “the ultimate wealth”? Notice if your mind immediately went to the thought of ‘money’ as the equivalent of ‘wealth’. What do you notice are your thoughts when you define wealth as the amount of money that you have? What are your feelings? What sensations in your body are present? Pause. Take a moment and notice what is there for you to learn about you before read-ing further. Ask yourself in this quiet place: How fulfilled am I in this area? Do I truly have the sense of having ‘enough’?

The Magic of Authenticity - Click To Read Article
Loving who you are, expressing who you are, showing up naturally wherever you are - in other words, simply being yourself - feels good. This place comes from an inner confidence.

The Many Faces of Rest - Click To Read Article
There is something very powerful about the word, 'rest'. In its many different faces, this word (accompanied by a body sense) can significantly influence the quality of our lives, thereby, supporting us in fully claiming Life.

Taking Down Walls - Click To Read Article
Our walls or protective shields are the focus of this month’s article. The use of the word “protection” here is different than what would show up in an insurance policy, house alarm company, or in an article about practical ways to prevent physical harm. What is being explored here is the use of ‘protection’ in the feeling sense.

Ten Ways to Greater Ease in Life - Click To Read Article
For many of us, including me, a life of greater ease is most appealing. Yet ease runs counter to our stress-producing, complex culture. As a result, it’s essential to increase its presence in our lives.

Stuff - Yours and Theirs - Click To Read Article
Creating harmonious and fulfilling relationships is a challenge at times for all of us - in spite of our best intentions. It’s the human path. Stepping stones toward greater wisdom are provided in those tough, relationship moments by asking: “What is the learning for me in this?”

I am Equal; You are Equal - Click To Read Article
Claiming Your Life as Your Own becomes especially important during periods of transition. Outgrowing a career, retiring, entering a new relationship, leaving an old relationship to be single again, becoming a parent or residing as an empty nester after raising a family - all of these and more are rites of passage that may throw us off balance and challenge us to reclaim our lives in a new way. That question – ‘Who am I…really?’ – can emerge once again.

Exploring the Sharing of Three Words - Click To Read Article
“I am sorry.” There are so many lessons to be learned about how to say these simple and very powerful words.

Accepting and Embracing All of Yourself - Click To Read Article
Close your eyes and become aware of your breath as you inhale and exhale. Allow your breath to take you to a silent place in the core of your being where you feel centered and present-focused. When you’re ready, say out loud: “I am okay accepting and embracing all of myself unconditionally”. Notice. Does it feel that every part of you - every cell - knows that this is true about you? If your answer is no, continue to read. This is a signal that there is room for you to step further into your own power and light.





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