Ask yourself if you are open to receiving love. Do you say that you are but are really blocking something? What won’t you ask for? Try asking yourself why you are doing this and what you are scared of. Are you willing to let someone know what it really is that you want? It doesn’t matter how much we receive if it is not what we truly value. Let yourself have what you really want. Perhaps you need to spend time working out what you want to receive from a relationship in general. Sometimes the first step is to trust that it really is safe for you to be honest about what you want.
When we are looking for our life partner, we are looking for someone who understands how wonderful we are and not just someone who we think is wonderful. Gone are the days when a partner had to devote his/her entire life to supporting the success and fulfilment of the partner’s vision. A partnership is a two way street! Love and vision must flow in both directions. In choosing a partner, it is just as important that we know how to be nurtured and supported, and not just how to love and support another person.
When I started to open myself up to receiving love, I found it very difficult to open up and feel vulnerable. This left me feeling very alone and I found it very difficult to ask other people for help or for other people to support me. If others did offer me assistance, I would decline their offers as I would feel a burden to them. In this way I was closing myself of to the love and support that I really was craving. Love cannot really penetrate your life if you are not willing to receive and feel vulnerable. Love cannot grow when people prefer to ‘play it safe’ and stay just in the ‘giving’ position. What I was really afraid of was being loved. I was scared of losing control. I had become so used to feeling independent and alone that I was feeling scared of really opening up to love and care for me. I was scared of being vulnerable.
Try to practice RECEIVING. Here are a few ideas:
1) Accept compliments gracefully
2) Make simple requests from others. For example, ask for a lift home or for someone to help you with a task at home
3) If someone offers you some assistance or to help you out, accept their offer with thanks
4) Write a list of 25 reasons why you deserve to receive love and happiness