Once acquired, the habit of worrying can be difficult to stop. Often our parents teach has how to worry and society often dictates that if we don't worry, then we are irresponsible!
In fact, worrying is never useful. Our worries often snowball and our imagination run away with us with thoughts of imagined threats and terrible things happening. The more you worry, the bigger your worries become. Some people then even worry about all the time they have spent worrying!
Our worries can show up in many forms, we worry about the future, the present and things which may have happened years ago. We worry about what people think about us, whether we are successful and what will happen to us. You could also be worried about things which very probably will never happen. You may also find yourself worrying about events or circumstances which you don't have any control over. One of the key traits in a worrier, is they don't think they can handle what does happen and this is often down to a lack of self confidence. If we knew we could handle anything life throws at us, then we wouldn't worry about the outcome so much.
When people tell you to ' Stop Worrying' this doesn't mean stop caring about how things will turn out or preparing yourself for future situations. What it does mean that you should not worry to the point of doing nothing about it or fretting about things.
Here are a few of my top tips for releasing worries:
1)Start a worry journal and write your worries down. It will help just getting your worries out of your body and onto paper
2)Allow yourself 30 mins a day to worry about things and then STOP. Schedule in ' worry time' in your diary.
3)Take action to resolve your worries quickly. The moment the worry enters you head, immediately address it and let it go. Write a plan if you need to.
4)Stop taking responsibility for everyone and everything! Let go and let people live their own lives. Making mistakes is a normal part of life.
5)Accept that a lot of things in life are completely out of your control. Just let go and see what happens
6)Remind yourself that if the worse does happen, you can handle it! Seriously, what is the worse that could happen?