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Solving conflicts by changing the game
| Guest post by: Christiane Pohl |
Article Overview: Usually we perceive conflicts to have two sides. But there is a 3rd side which lives in all of us. The role of that 3rd side is to bring peace to conflict and help others get back on track. To do that we need two main ingredients - Space and Vision!
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Solving conflicts by changing the game
Our existence is a given, Living however is an Art (Sri Sri Ravishankar)
Let me ask you-would you like to know how to create a more stress
free and violent free world?
Would you like to know how to successfully reduce conflicts?
I have spend most of my life helping people solve conflicts – as
a manager, a therapist, a life coach.
And I realized over the years that the secret of Peace is US –
HOW we act personally and as a community.
We live in a world filled with conflict – conflicts in families,
at work and between countries.
And we usually perceive conflicts as having 2 sides, but there is
always a 3rd side and that 3rd side is a Part of US.
The role of our 3rd
side is to
help others and ourselves get back on track. But in order to be an effective 3rd side we must first learn how to step back, take a break and make some space to reflect. You may have observed, if you are too close to the problem it
becomes impossible to solve it.
To change the game we need to change the frame
We ourselves first need to make the shift from NO to YES – to be open
The best way that I have found to activating the 3rd side is to serve a bigger vision, a higher purpose and then to get involved, to listen, to engage, to act. We are all part of a greater whole, it's good to keep that in mind.
When my partner and I first started working together we had much to
learn about being peaceful and dealing with conflict. In fact at one stage we
were unable to continue because we did not see eye to eye.
But we persisted. What kept us going was the knowledge and
techniques we had learned in the varies Art of Living courses we had taken. You see,
we had come to realize that we were serving a bigger vision. Live did no longer just revolve around our own little egos. Our bigger vision included generating more peace and productive cooperation.
Our 3rd side can help us in bringing people together to celebrate life in all it different
shapes and forms and to support the vision for a
more peaceful tomorrow.
To promote peace we need to be peace and to
be peace we need to learn the Art of Living.
Let me share with you this
quote from Vincent van Gogh from a letter to his brother Theo "And I must continue to follow the path I take
now. If I do nothing, if I study nothing, if I cease searching, then, woe is
me, I am lost. That is how I look at it - keep going, keep going come what may."
with my best wishes for your success,
Christiane Pohl
Life & Leadership Coach
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About the Author: Christiane Pohl RSS for Christiane's articles - Visit Christiane's website She has been working for many years as a coach and mentor with professionals in international companies. Her clients say that she has the gift of helping them identify what is most important to them, find solutions to challening situations and enable them to change and develop. She is considered to be resourceful, committed and practical with a healthy sense of humor. She has a diverse background which includes 20 years experience as a Manager in International Hotel Companies in Germany, Switzerland, England and Greece. Click here to visit Christiane's website  
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Re: Playing sports or games with clients
- If we are playing more than one game, I will let him win the first game, then win the second one and let him win the third. Business relationship should not be jeopardise because of sport or game. The reason is because some people don't like loosing.
Re: What are you doing if o have a bad day?
- Glad you all like that idea. I don't play it too often, but it definitely helps with stress or relieving anger.
David, that reminds me of another game for the NES called Galaga. It's also a shooting game in which you have to also dodge projectiles. Very fun as well. A pure classic.
I would say that any video game would work well to just take your mind off of work. Who knows, you may be able to come up with a breakthrough idea from playing them!
Re: LEADERS
- Nice post, i like the Doers and the listeners comments
from my handbook 8.5 HOW MUCH DO YOU KNOW ABOUT LEADERSHIP?
Planning
Problem Solving
Vision
Innovation
Leadership
Emotional Intelligence
Delegation
Communication
Self-Development
Relationship Building
Commercial
Financial skills
Personal Energy
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Even there I see that we are missing "PASSION"
Re: Playing sports or games with clients
- [quote="ideasuniversity":rd7ddnmg]If we are playing more than one game, I will let him win the first game, then win the second one and let him win the third. Business relationship should not be jeopardise because of sport or game. The reason is because some people don't like loosing.[/quote:rd7ddnmg]
But then would you really want to do business (or be friends) with a sore loser?
Secondly, a client could be even more offended if he/she discovers that you deliberately let him/her win.
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