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Successful Living Part 6 - My Reactions are My Life
| Guest post by: Christiane Pohl |
Article Overview: Two examples of how the way we react determines the way we feel about life. We can have a happy life or a crappy life - to a large extend the choice is ours.
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Successful Living Part 6 - My Reactions are My Life
A few years ago I was attending
a seminar where the key guest speaker was a 85 year old lady who had spend time in a German Concentration camp. She was exuding vitality, looking younger then her years and had a lovely sense of humor. Her story was moving– she clearly had
been through hell and back.
At the end of her talk I was curious – how did she
manage to go on this after experience, to get married, live a happy, fulfilled life and
still have a sense of humor?
When it was time for questions I raised my hand and asked her.
She looked at me for a moment and then she said: "I was very lucky you see. At an early age I learned one of the key
lesson for life. I learned that MY
Reactions are My Life, that I have to accept things and people as they are. I understood that I could have a crappy life or a happy life and that it was largely up to me. I wanted to be happy at all cost.'
She left a deep impression on me. Of course soon I
forgot the wisdom of her words...until a few years later. I had just moved in
with my Now husband and we were at this stage where you know each other well
enough to get irritated by some of the other persons behaviour. Have you ever
noticed – Often we are much kinder with strangers then we are with people close
to us.
I think it’s because we feel safe with our
partners, friends and family. Steven, my husband is very laid back and can be
very quiet. I started to develop a pattern of feeling irritated when he was too
quiet in our friend's company. I was getting more and more obsessive about this and upset which of
course would upset him. I was like a hawk, watching his every word .
Then when we argued about it. Afterwards I would feel
bad for making him feel miserable. One day I was sharing my frustration with a
friend. She looked at me and said: What are you doing? Let
him be Himself and Start to accept HIM as he is. It’s the only way to be
happy.
I realized she was Right. All I wanted was to be
happy and THAT WAS HOW TO DO IT –
I had to
Accept the other people as they are – and
I started with accepting Steven and his way. Now when we go out I am relaxed
and so is he and we are both the happier for it.
Happiness
requires a certain Behaviour – and we can all start by doing
things that make other people happy.
Our
Reactions are our Life and I HAVE COME TO UNDERSTAND
that our Reactions are also our family, our health, our work, our experiences, our community.
with my best wishes,
Christiane Pohl
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About the Author: Christiane Pohl RSS for Christiane's articles - Visit Christiane's website She has been working for many years as a coach and mentor with professionals in international companies. Her clients say that she has the gift of helping them identify what is most important to them, find solutions to challening situations and enable them to change and develop. She is considered to be resourceful, committed and practical with a healthy sense of humor. She has a diverse background which includes 20 years experience as a Manager in International Hotel Companies in Germany, Switzerland, England and Greece. Click here to visit Christiane's website  
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