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The Power of Letting Go

Written by: Terry Yoffe

Article Overview: By moving through and letting go of our fears, we can envision and create the life that we truly want for ourselves. By contrast, when we let our preconceived notions about ourselves and our fears take control, we can be paralyzed by them

The Power of Letting Go

Marilyn Ferguson, author of the global bestseller "The Aquarian Conspiracy," sums up letting go of the fear of change:

"It's not so much that we're afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but its that place in between that we fear...It's like being between trapezes. It's Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There's nothing to hold on to."

As I thought about the Power of Letting Go, I thought back to my own major professional transitions. I was very successful in the corporate world but wanted to make a life-altering career change to become an entrepreneur and small business owner. The transition was a time between trapezes, letting go of who I was, living in the unknown, and trusting that I wouldn't spiral downward without the safety net of my tried-and-true identity and proven success. Only when it was over, when I grabbed hold of that second trapeze, did I fully realize that my fears were all that had made the journey difficult.

Living in the gap, between two trapezes, is the chance to find out who we truly are and who we can be. How many of us are willing to let go of one trapeze, experience that place of uncertainty, and really find out what is possible for us before we actually grasp the second one?

Coaching is about that gap, the place where change occurs, where we can discover and explore who we have to become to reach our most cherished desires and dreams. It is the place where we ask the question:

What do we want in life and how important is it to get what we want?

It's a powerful question that we're not likely to ask when we're holding onto that one trapeze for dear life. As human beings, we always believe we need to hold onto something, no matter how unhappy it makes us: the job we want to leave, the business we want to start, the relationship that has lost its way, the dreams that we've shelved for yet another year. The fear of letting go keeps us from moving forward.

What has holding on to that one trapeze cost you in your life? Try to answer the question above, and then follow up with these two simple questions:

What will your life be like if you get what you want?

What will your life be like if you don't?

Can you afford to continue holding onto that one trapeze? Or are you willing to let go and live in the gap until you can reach up and grasp that second trapeze to begin living the life that calls you? Consider the power of letting go.

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