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Getting Angry Doesn’t Benefit Anyone

Guest post by: Anne Bachrach

Article Overview: Everybody gets angry sometimes. Most people are not “likable” when they are upset, because anger is a strong and defensive emotion, one that is defined as a “an aroused state toward someone or something perceived to be the source of an aversive event.” When we sense that someone else is angry this immediately creates uneasy feelings, since we do not wish to be the source of that agitation.

Getting Angry Doesn’t Benefit Anyone

Everybody gets angry sometimes. Most people are not "likable" when they are upset, because anger is a strong and defensive emotion, one that is defined as a "an aroused state toward someone or something perceived to be the source of an aversive event." When we sense that someone else is angry this immediately creates uneasy feelings, since we do not wish to be the source of that agitation. The Harmful Effects of Being Angry

Allowing yourself to become angry doesn't necessarily solve problems. It's no coincidence that people who are known to be constantly angry are also the ones that have problems with their heart or with high blood pressure. It has been observed that anger actually reduces the capacity of the heart to pump blood. Over an extended period of time, this can wear down the heart muscles and cause medical problems.

While it is best to express your anger, constantly becoming agitated can be very unhealthy. Recurring anger has also been linked to chest pains, headaches, migraines, stroke, kidney failure, obesity, skin wrinkles and ulcers. Sometimes we can avoid these negative and unhealthy reactions if we choose not to let some things anger us anymore. We can choose to not get angry or we can choose to get angry.

If you feel that someone or something is becoming distressing or even injurious to you, the first reaction is to get angry. As stated, do not deny yourself the right to become angry. You have the right to become angry with a person that has done you wrong, especially if he or she has shown no remorse over their actions. What is important though is that you are able to make peace with that person, to forgive them and to forgive yourself. Why should you forgive someone that has offended you?

There are many reasons to forgive, on a moral basis, as well as on a personal level. You must be willing to forgive others and yourself for your own actions, because this will make your life more enjoyable. Life is too short to become obsessed with vengeance and deep-rooted animosity. You could liken the idea of "never forgiving" to letting someone repeatedly stab you in the back with a knife. It hurts when someone betrays your confidence, like a sharp stab. However, when you cling to those painful memories every day, you are just reinserting the knife into that sensitive wound. Whether or not you choose to resume the relationship with the offender is up to you; but it is imperative that you forgive that person at least in the sense of letting go of that heavy ball of negativity that is slowly developing in your heart.

Anger Management in Your Personal and Professional Life

Not only must you learn to control your anger in view of your own health, you will also be expected to exercise proper anger management appropriately by your friends and professional colleagues. You have to give people what they want to see. If you are interested in appearing assertive and responsible, then try not to let others slight you without a discussion. This doesn't require that you be "mad", but you can certainly share your opinion on the matter.

Balancing your anger, as well understanding how others perceive you is all a part of learning anger management. If you want to control your anger in healthy ways and progress in your career, then begin today to choose to react differently to situations that normally would have made you angry. Make different choices and keep yourself as healthy as possible. Learn to control your anger and choose to handle situations in a new and more positive manner.

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