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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Articles

Written by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

What is Enlightenment? - Click To Read Article
Wayne Dyer offers us a simple yet profound definition of enlightenment - simple, but not easy.

“I Feel Overwhelmed” - Click To Read Article
When you feel overwhelmed, do you believe that it is about external circumstances? Discover why this might not be true.

When You Love Yourself, You Let Others Off the Hook - Click To Read Article
Do you believe that loving yourself is selfish? Discover why this is not true!

What Will Love Give You? - Click To Read Article
What are your beliefs about what another's love will give to you?

Persistence: Playing a Poor Hand Well - Click To Read Article
Are you allowing the hand you were dealt to determine what you do in life, or are you willing to make the best of a poor hand?

How do you Make Others Responsible for Your Painful Feelings? - Click To Read Article
Discover some of the more common ways we dump our feelings onto others in an effort to rid ourselves of our painful feelings.

Are you Inspiring or Gloomy? - Click To Read Article
Do you inspire others with your caring energy, or do you bring others down with your misery?

Will Your Next Marriage be Better? - Click To Read Article
Discover the surprising statistics about second and third marriages, and why they have such a poor success rate.

How to Connect with Others - Click To Read Article
Are you mystified about how to create meaningful emotional connection with others?

Stop Taking the Bait of Projection! - Click To Read Article
Do you know how to take care of yourself when you are at the other end of projection?

Do You Isolate? - Click To Read Article
If you tend to isolate, and you believe that isolating protects you from getting hurt, you might be surprised to learn of the harm you are causing yourself.

Intimacy and Connection - The Aliveness of Life - Click To Read Article
Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? You need to start by learning how to love yourself, rather than abandon yourself.

Blaming Others Can Ruin Your Health - Click To Read Article
Do you know that blaming others hurts you more than it hurts the ones you are blaming? Discover how to release blame.

Self-Pity or Self-Compassion - Click To Read Article
Do you understand the difference between self-pity and self-compassion?

The Vital Importance of Community - Click To Read Article
Discover why people in a particular kind of community die of old age, rather than from heart disease and cancer.

Caretaking: A Covert Form of Narcissism - Click To Read Article
Caretaking is NOT the opposite of narcissism!

The Challenge of Accepting Our Helplessness Over Others - Click To Read Article
What do you do when you feel helpless over another's choices? What is the result? Are you happy with how you manage this feeling?

Does Crying Make you Feel Better? - Click To Read Article
Discover that some crying makes you feel better, while other crying doesn't, or may even make you feel worse.

Life: Security or a Daring Adventure? - Click To Read Article
Do you believe it\'s possible to have control over being safe on this planet? What do you do to create the illusion of safety and security?

A Problem with Today\\\'s Parenting - Click To Read Article
Many parents try to be far better parents than their parents were, yet their children grow up feeling lost and empty. Discover why in this article.

Why Do We Seek Approval? - Click To Read Article
If you are addicted to seeking others\' approval, this article is for you!

The Devastation of Inner Emptiness - Click To Read Article
The news stories of sexual addiction lead us to ask \"Why?\"

Burned by Coffee or Burned by Heartbreak - They Feel the Same - Click To Read Article
Did you know that heartbreak hurts as much as a coffee burn? Learn to embrace and release this pain rather than getting stuck in suffering.

"If You Really Loved Me, You Wouldn't..." - Click To Read Article
How often do you tell yourself that another's uncaring behavior means that this person doesn't care about you?

Are You or Your Partner Possessive? - Click To Read Article
Are you and your partner operating in a relationship system that is based on possessiveness?

Feeling Disconnected From Your Partner? - Click To Read Article
Do you often feel disconnected from your partner? Discover what creates this disconnection and how to re-connect.

Why Don't You Speak Up For Yourself? - Click To Read Article
Do you have problems speaking up for yourself when others are being uncaring?

Discover Your Level of Narcissism - Click To Read Article
The ego wounded self in all of us exhibits some degree of narcissism. Discovering where you fall on this continuum can lead to deeper learning and healing.

What to do When You Can't Communicate - Click To Read Article
Do you know a healthy way of behaving when you are stuck and unable to communicate with someone? Learn how in this article.

"I Feel Trapped" - Click To Read Article
Do you feel trapped by numerous situations in your life and find yourself going into resistance? Discover a way out of procrastination and resistance.

No One Appreciates Me - Click To Read Article
Do you frequently feel that you do so much for others, yet end up feeling unappreciated by others?

Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws? - Click To Read Article
Do you find yourself chasing after someone when he or she withdraws from you? How do you feel when you do this, and what is generally the result?

"I Can't Do It" - Click To Read Article
Does your internal dialogue of "I can't" and your fear of failure stop you from doing what you really want to do?

Relationships: Attract at Your Common Level of Self-Love - Click To Read Article
Learn to attract people at your common level of self-love, rather than at your common level of self-abandonment.

5 Reasons Why You Might Want to End Your Relationship - Click To Read Article
If you are considering ending your relationship, you might want to read this article.

"I Don't Deserve to be Loved" - Click To Read Article
If you believe that you don't deserve to be loved, this article is for you.

The Myth of Explaining and Defending - Click To Read Article
Do you believe that explaining and defending will convince the other person to see things your way? Has this ever worked?

Others Treat Us The Way We Treat Ourselves - Click To Read Article
Discover how to love the unlovable in yourself and transform how others treat you.

Americans: More Self-Centered… and More Lonely - Click To Read Article
I find the research very interesting that says that the more self-centered we are, the lonelier we are.

Trying to Control Makes Us Miserable - Click To Read Article
Are you aware that trying to control what you can't control makes you feel anxious and unhappy?

Nothing Has Meaning Without Love and Connection - Click To Read Article
Discover a major cause of depression and how you can begin to heal it - today!

Relationships: Do You Have the Same Conflicts Over and Over? - Click To Read Article
Discover why sometimes it is easy to resolve conflicts and other times it is impossible.

Are You Making These 4 Mistakes? - Click To Read Article
Discover the 4 mistakes you might be making that are causing your life and relationships to not work in the way you want.

The Law of Attraction - It's About Frequency - Click To Read Article
Like does attract like, so focus on keeping your frequency high and you will manifest your dreams!

Do You Believe What You Perceive? - Click To Read Article
If you want to change your feelings and your experience of life, then change your state of mind.

Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other? - Click To Read Article
You and your partner might be hurting each other without realizing how and why you are doing this.

The Need for Touch - Click To Read Article
Learn how important it is to be touched with love rather than with neediness.

Self-Validation - How to Validate Yourself - Click To Read Article
Do you now how to validate yourself or are you dependent for your sense of worth on others approval and validation? Learn how now!

Holding Your Heart Through Sadness and Heartbreak - Click To Read Article
When you learn how to hold your heart with love and compassion, you will discover that you can feel peaceful and even alive and passionate about your life in the midst of the pain of life.

"If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me" - Healing Perfectionism - Click To Read Article
Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs.

Relationships and Emotional Connection - Click To Read Article
Do you want emotional connection but can't seem to create it in your relationships? Learn how in this article!

Five Secrets to Weight Loss - Click To Read Article
After struggling with my weight for years, I discovered 5 secrets to weight loss that have worked for me for many years.

Do You REALLY Want to Lose Weight? - Click To Read Article
You say you really want to lose weight, yet either you don't lose it or you lose it only to gain it back. Discover the underlying cause of this and what you can do to permanently lose weight.

When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner - Click To Read Article
This article explores two kinds of relationship hurt - hurt that comes from another's uncaring behavior, and hurt that comes from the lies we may tell ourselves about the other person.

Do You Feel Loved or Unloved? - Click To Read Article
We all need to feel loved, but often we don't - both within ourselves and with others. Discover what you need to feel loved.

Taking the Risk of Loving - Click To Read Article
If you feel some emptiness in your life, it is likely because you are allowing fear of loss to stop you from loving fully.

When Should You Take It Personally? - Click To Read Article
There are times when it is very important to not take another's behavior personally, and times when it is personal. Learn the difference in this article.

The Crazymaking Trap: Proving Your Worth Over and Over - Click To Read Article
Are you stuck in a trap trying over and over to prove your worth? Are you stuck making another person your Higher Power? You CAN get out of this crazymaking trap!

"What Are They Thinking About Me?" - Click To Read Article
How would you feel and what would you do differently in your life if you gave up worrying about what others think of you - if you gave up your illusion of control over others' feelings and thoughts?

The Happiness Choice - Click To Read Article
Do you know what major choice you can make that creates either happiness or misery? Discover that choice in this article!

Fear of Anger - Yours and Others - Click To Read Article
Does your own and others' anger terrify you? Discover how to move beyond your fear of anger.

Healing Envy - Click To Read Article
Do you sometimes find yourself feeling envy for what another has or does rather than feeling happy for them?

Addiction to Gossip - Click To Read Article
Are you addicted to gossiping about others or do you know others who gossip? Discover the underlying cause of gossiping.

Enmeshed Parenting - Click To Read Article
Are you an enmeshed parent? Discover if you are and what you can begin to do about it in this article.

"There's Too Much To Do" - Click To Read Article
Do you ever feel stressed that there will never be enough time to get everything done? Listen to a conversation I had with my spiritual Guidance about this.

Beyond Misery Junk! - Click To Read Article
Are you ready to move beyond misery? Learn about the junk that may be causing your misery.

Relationships: - Click To Read Article
Are you in a relationship where you believe that you are open and your partner is closed? Read on!

Law of Attraction: The Importance of Feeling Good - Click To Read Article
Do you wonder why the Law of Attraction doesn't seem to be working for you?

Resistance to Gratitude: Why Isn't The Law of Attraction Working for Me? - Click To Read Article
Do you find yourself resistant to expressing gratitude for what you have? Are you stuck in your ability to manifest what you want?

Do You Avoid Failure Like the Plague? - Click To Read Article
What are you sacrificing by focusing on avoiding mistakes and failure, rather than on learning and growth? Fun? Joy? Love? Success?

The Art of Manifestation: When It Is Loving to Be Controlling - Click To Read Article
Is it ever loving to be controlling? Yes! Discover the kind of controlling that is loving and leads to manifesting what you want in life.

The Power of Tears - Click To Read Article
Discover the difference between victim pain and authentic pain and how expressing your authentic tears can open you to joy.

Moving Beyond Emotional Dependency - Click To Read Article
Discover the choice you can make to move out of emotional dependency and into emotional freedom.

What Will They Think? - Love and Approval Addiction - Click To Read Article
Are you love and approval addicted? Are you constantly worried about what others think of your looks and/or performance?

Needs vs. Neediness - Click To Read Article
Have you wondered about the difference between legitimate needs and neediness?

Speaking Your Truth When it's Hard - Click To Read Article
How often to you withhold your truth from someone important to you because you are afraid of their anger? Discover what caring about yourself looks like in this situation.

Healing the Need for Others' Approval - Click To Read Article
Discover why much of the time repeating positive affirmations doesn't work to heal your low self-esteem and need for others' approval, and what does work.

Body Image Stress - Aging Insecurities and Self-Image - Click To Read Article
Are you fearful that signs of aging are going to turn off the right person? Discover what to do about this in this article.

How To Lose Weight as an Older Woman - Click To Read Article
Here is my personal formula for maintaining my weight and health as an older woman.

What is Emotional Freedom? - Click To Read Article
Are you choosing emotional dependency or emotional freedom? Discover the secret of attaining emotional freedom!

The ONE Major Cause of Relationship Problems! - Click To Read Article
What if you could discover the ONE major cause of your relationship problems and it was something that you could do something about? Would you do it?

Lying as a Form of Control - Click To Read Article
Did you learn to lie as a child to protect yourself from rejection? Are you still using this form of control, which is undermining your self-esteem? Discover how to heal lying.

"I Want to Love But I Can't Give Up Control" - Click To Read Article
Are there fears in the way of keeping your heart open to loving? You CAN learn how to feel safe enough to open your heart and share your love.

Are You Caring or Caretaking? - Click To Read Article
Do you sometimes give to another and then wonder why your giving is so unappreciated? Discover how much your intent affects the interaction.

"Why Won't my Partner Have Sex With Me?" - Click To Read Article
Are you wondering why your partner doesn't want to have sex with you? This article may provide the answer for you.

"Why Are My Partners Always Needy?" - Click To Read Article
If you have the experience of always meeting needy or controlling people, it is likely because you are also needy and controlling and don't realize it.

The Relationship Trap: - Click To Read Article
Do you sometimes feel trapped, knowing that your partner is going to blame you, when your partner says "Let's Talk"? Do you give in or get angry and withdraw because you don't know what else to do?

Life's One Achievable Goal - Click To Read Article
We all have many goals in life, and we may achieve some of them and not others. But there is one primary goal that is not only achievable, but is the very reason you are here on the planet.

Am I in a Healthy Relationship? - Click To Read Article
Are you wondering if you are in a healthy relationship or even what constitutes a healthy relationship for you?

The Secret to Emotional Healing - Click To Read Article
Are you ready to heal your anxiety, depression, anger, and relationship problems, and experience emotional freedom? Discover the secret to deep emotional healing!

Food That Harms, Food that Heals - Click To Read Article
The food industry, drug companies, and insurance companies are intricately tied up in why we have a health care crisis.

Do You Get Frustrated With Others? - Click To Read Article
Do you believe that your frustration with others is being caused by them? Discover the real reason for frustration.

Addiction to Distractions - Click To Read Article
Some addictions are obvious, like food, drugs, and alcohol. Some addictions are subtle, and the addiction to distractions is one of these.

Core Sadness vs. Wounded Sadness - Click To Read Article
Discover the vast difference between core sadness and wounded sadness, and what causes each.

The Silent Treatment - Click To Read Article
Do you use the silent treatment to control? Are you at the other end of someone who punishes you with the silent treatment?

Disengaging From Your Family of Origin - Click To Read Article
Do feelings of fear and obligation stop you from disengaging from your abusive family of origin? You might want to reconsider this decision.

The Heart of Healing - Click To Read Article
There is ONE vital choice that you can make that leads to healing rather than to suffering. Discover that powerful choice in this article.

It's All About Love! - Click To Read Article
Life is all about loving ourselves and others. We can't love others if we are not loving ourselves, and we are not loving ourselves if we are not loving others.

Addictions: Talking as a Form of Resistance - Click To Read Article
Many people have discovered talking as way to avoid being invaded, controlled, or rejected by others. Yet this addiction, as well as many others, being a form of self-abandonment, leads to much suffering.

Addiction to Spending - Click To Read Article
Discover what might be fueling an addiction to spending, or any other addiction, and how you can heal from all addictions.

How Do You Define Success? - Click To Read Article
Our society is way off track about what is regarded as success. Discover how you define success and if your definition is serving you well.

I Feel Empty - Click To Read Article
Do you often feel empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up? Discover the real cause of inner emptiness and what to do about it.

Relationship Breakup: Heartbreak and Healing - Click To Read Article
Are you suffering from the heartbreak of a broken relationship? Do you feel like you can't live without your partner? Discover the likely cause of this heartbreak and how to heal it.

Giving Up: Have You Given Up on Yourself? - Click To Read Article
Have you tried everything you know to do and you still feel miserable? Don't give up - discover the cause in this article!

Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - Click To Read Article
Are you emotionally dependent? Has this wreaked havoc in your relationships? Emotional freedom is possible for you! Discover what causes emotional dependency and the wonderful results of emotional freedom.

Gaining Others' Respect - Click To Read Article
Are you distressed about how often others are disrespectful to you? Discover why this may be happening and what you can do about it.

Healing Love and Approval Addiction - Click To Read Article
You CAN heal from love and approval addiction! Discover if you are love and approval addicted and begin to understand how to heal this.

Healing Emotional Dependency - Click To Read Article
Are you tired of tap dancing as fast as you can to get the love, attention and approval that you believe you need to be okay? Learn how to move beyond emotional dependency and into personal power and emotional freedom.

When Someone Rejects You, Who Are They Rejecting? - Click To Read Article
Discover the huge difference between being rejected for your wounded self or for your core Self, and begin to learn to manage rejection.

Heartbreak - Click To Read Article
Discover how the heartbreak of your childhood causes emotional and physical problems today, and what you can do to heal.

Safety With an Open Heart - Click To Read Article
While you might believe that keeping your heart closed is the only way to feel safe, there is a far better way of feeling safe.

Can't Say - Click To Read Article
Are you afraid to say "no" to others? Discover where you got this fear and how to move into personal power and emotional freedom.

What Is Emotional Dependency? - Click To Read Article
Are you emotionally dependent? Use this checklist to find out, and discover how you can attain emotional freedom.

"I Just Want to Explain" - Explaining as a Form of Control - Click To Read Article
What happens when you try to explain yourself to someone who is attacking and blaming? Does it EVER work? Discover how else to communicate.

A Different Kind of New Year's Resolution - Click To Read Article
This year, make two New Year's Resolution lists - one for your external goals and one for who you want to be.

Is It Important to you to be Healthy? - Click To Read Article
How important is your health to you? You might be surprised to discover how many things are more important to you than excellent health.

Who Do You Want To Be This Christmas? - Click To Read Article
What kind of person do you want to be this Christmas? You get to choose!

"We Can't Communicate" - Click To Read Article
Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Learn why this may be so and what you can do about it.

Healing the Fear of Intimacy - Click To Read Article
Are you sick of being afraid of intimacy? Are you ready to have the wonderful experience of emotional intimacy in your life?

Avoiding Your Feelings by Focusing on Your Partner - Click To Read Article
Addictions can take many forms. One fairly common yet subtle form is to start a conversation to get your partner involved with you so that you don't have to feel and take responsibility for your feelings.

Loving Yourself First - Click To Read Article
Do you believe that loving yourself first is selfish? Discover why the opposite is true!

Hurt Feelings vs. Hurt Heart - Click To Read Article
Discover the vast difference between hurt feelings and hurt heart, and how embracing our heart hurt moves us into personal power and emotional freedom.

Addiction to Video Games - Click To Read Article
In recent years, video game playing has become a major addiction that people use to avoid responsibility for their feelings.

Why Don't I Have Friends? - Click To Read Article
If you are wondering why others have friends and you don't, read this article!

When is it Helpful to Apologize? - Click To Read Article
Discover when it is loving and appropriate to apologize and when it is a form of control.

What Creates Confidence? - Click To Read Article
Do you lack personal or professional confidence? Do you often wonder at how others can appear to feel so confident? Discover the path to both personal and professional confidence.

The Art of Listening - Click To Read Article
Really listening to someone and caring about their feelings is a great gift, but it is important to understand when listening is appropriate and when it is not.

Relationships: Giving Yourself Up Can Kill You - Click To Read Article
Are you giving yourself up to attempt to make someone else happy and secure? If you are depressed, you might be abandoning yourself to care-take another, which is not loving to either of you.

Relationships: Cheating - Click To Read Article
Why do people cheat in their relationships? Discover the underlying reasons for cheating and for openly having an affair.

High Maintenance Relationships - Click To Read Article
Are you in a high maintenance relationship? Discover some of the various forms of high maintenance and how you are participating in this dysfunctional relationship.

Healing Social Phobia - Click To Read Article
Do you suffer from social phobia? You don't need to stay isolated or go your whole life suffering from this debilitating anxiety. There is a way to heal!

Does Psychotherapy Work? - Click To Read Article
Discover what kind of psychotherapy or counseling works and what doesn't, so you can stop wasting your time and money on what does not work.

Do You Wake Up Happy or Anxious? - Click To Read Article
Do you wake up anxious every morning? Discover what might be causing your anxiety and what to do about it!

Anger Power - Click To Read Article
Does anger work to get you what you want? It really depends on what you think you want.





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