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Relationships & Stress

Written by: David Oliver

Article Overview: Here David Oliver shows how relationships can both cause and heal stress and defines the difference between load and burden. READ ON

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Relationships & Stress Then there is the danger of email & facebook. One of the real problems with ceaseless emails and with sites like Facebook is that you can't see or hear the person the other end of the communication - so it is easy for things to be written or read in a way that was never meant. The volume or quantity of contact (200+ on facebook or you're no-body)- which can be fine - but may replace the depth of friendship that could otherwise have helped. Sometimes the sheer volume can of itself bring stress

Relationships can bring stress can't they? There are moments of unkindness and confrontations. Those who love us the most can hurt us the most too. I think one of the biggest stressors I have observed in relation to stress & relationships is comparisons. BOTTOM P 4 .We can compare ourselves with our friends, compare with what they have or own, compare with what they are, compare with what they can do, compare with what they look like maybe even their influence on our mutual friends. Comparison is a robber in friendship maybe we can learn to put that robber in prison. Let's catch it challenge and change. Learning to be who I am and being content with who I am. But actually this potential source of stress is also a wonderful source of healing for our stress. .........

In the ancient writings it says somewhere, each one of you carry your own load and bear one another's burdens. Your own load is what you should carry on your own. What you and I should be taking responsibility for and that will include moments of stress for sure. Load or burden? Burden is when it all gets too much that's when we need friends to help us lift the weight a bit. It's good to offer help and quite appropriate most of the time to ask for it.

Friendship is one of most profound ways to bear one another's burdens. What the writer was seeing I think was that stress which has gone beyond the good, that stress which has moved towards distress and helping us to find a way to help each other in it.Isn't it great when you can sit down with someone you trust and say to them 'I have really been struggling with something could you just listen or could you give me your perspective - help me climb back into positive mode help me to catch challenge change. Sometimes even just hearing the words you know will come but from another persons lips is helpful.

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About the Author: David Oliver
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Focusing on work-life issues, David Oliver is highly sought after in business conferences the world over for his charismatic, motivating style. He has spoken in a wide variety of settings to over 200,000 people - from large groups running into thousands to small workshops. 98% of delegates polled have rated his material as either excellent or good. This has ranged from both small owner managed businesses right through to international corporates such as HBOS, Mitsubishi, Microsoft, H.P., Lloyds, and B&Q. 'David Oliver is an inspiring keynote and motivational speaker' Gordon McKenzie, Country Manager Microsoft Scotland Recent assignments include addressing 350 delegates in Belfast at the 'Business leaders' conference and running work-life balance symposiums with the Ministry of State for community development in Singapore. Working directly with a government minister to address several large public groups on work life effectiveness. A board member of HBOS (Halifax Bank of Scotland) said of David after the keynote address at his senior management conference 'it was a tour de force but also an incredible challenge' David Oliver is an Author Of 9 books

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Re: Infographic: The 4 Main Stress Factors Re: Infographic: The 4 Main Stress Factors - I'd like to reference that article in my next blog post as well.. I worked in sales for years and found that days when I was positive, relaxed where days that it was easy to sell. On days that I was stressed I found I would not reach target. Stress is good at times, but it very easily becomes problematic. I do a lot of very physical exercise and work now, to manage it.


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