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Saying Yes Always Means Saying No
Written by: David OliverArticle Overview: In this short look at family work tension, David Oliver helps us look at the implication of saying yes too often and provides practical kesy to saying 'No'
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Saying Yes Always Means Saying No
Saying Yes Or No
Work can produce tensions of its own and so can family life. Put the two together and some fairly hefty stress loads can be found.
As a result, someone or something is not going to get what they deserve from you, what they want from you, what they need from you and certainly not what they expect from you. There is no way around it. There is just not enough time in your day to be all things to all people. You are going to have to make choices where some win and some lose. If we don't face up to this reality - then the truth is, we are acting as if we are omnipotent. You can have a go at being omnipotent if you really want to but the stress levels are fairly high for that role!!!
Good Intentions Are Never Enough
No-one reading this has bad intentions towards your family or friends. But good intentions are simply not enough. If I hit you with my tennis racket but my intention is to hit the ball you still have bruised eye cut lips and you still require a trip to ER. In the physical world that is clear enough. But the same is true in the world of relationships. Good intentions even the desire of our hearts will never heal the damage left by our absence, our preoccupation or our misprioritization.
Those of you who have a faith - let me put it this way to you. It's no good praying to God and asking him to stand watch over your family while you give to a career what actually belongs to them.
And if you are like most people, you cannot give all the time expected of you to both work & family - somewhere you have to say Yes and somewhere you will have to say No.
Saying Yes Always Means Saying No Somewhere Else!!
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About the Author: David Oliver RSS for David's articles - Visit David's website Focusing on work-life issues, David Oliver is highly sought after in business conferences the world over for his charismatic, motivating style. He has spoken in a wide variety of settings to over 200,000 people - from large groups running into thousands to small workshops. 98% of delegates polled have rated his material as either excellent or good. This has ranged from both small owner managed businesses right through to international corporates such as HBOS, Mitsubishi, Microsoft, H.P., Lloyds, and B&Q. 'David Oliver is an inspiring keynote and motivational speaker' Gordon McKenzie, Country Manager Microsoft Scotland Recent assignments include addressing 350 delegates in Belfast at the 'Business leaders' conference and running work-life balance symposiums with the Ministry of State for community development in Singapore. Working directly with a government minister to address several large public groups on work life effectiveness. A board member of HBOS (Halifax Bank of Scotland) said of David after the keynote address at his senior management conference 'it was a tour de force but also an incredible challenge' David Oliver is an Author Of 9 books Click here to visit David's website Stress Is So Good For You What Do You Work For Stop the madness Love Yourself The simple Key To Stress Defence Relationships Stress |
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