Caring for Aging Parents: What's The Best That Could Happen?

How often have you done something that you really dreaded and heard yourself saying "that wasn't so bad"?

On the other hand, how many times have you feared the worst about, say for example, an eldercare issue. Sure you know it's a problem. You see all the tell-tale signs of trouble - the car accidents (or near misses); health problems not being addressed; bills not being paid; increasing forgetfulness; inability to take care of themselves in their home. You know you should do something but because of the fear, you put off addressing the issue for weeks, months, or even years. You hope it will get better or go away but it gets predictably worse. Then the crisis hits and suddenly there are fewer and fewer options and it spirals out of control. Now It is, in fact, the worst that could happen. So what can you do to avoid the inevitable 'what if's?'; 'if only's'; or 'shoulda-coulda-woulda's'?

1. Keep a diary about your parent's situation. Seeing it in writing will help you see patterns emerge.

2. Start talking with others such as your siblings, your aging parent's spouse and friends and ask them what they're seeing. The accumulation of symptoms will allow you to see problems sooner.

3. While you're at it, talk with siblings & your aging parent's spouse about their take on the situation. Ideally you will also get their cooperation but if nothing else, you'll find where they stand.

4. Start looking at options. It's easier to remove the car, for example, if you've identified acceptable alternate forms of transport.

5. Remember how to eat an elephant . . . . one bite at a time. In other words, determine your goals and concentrate on achieving them one step at a time.

6. Start talking with your elderly parent. The earlier you start talking, the better and easier it will be. And for all you know, they may be quite aware that there's an issue and may welcome your support.

7. If you don't know what to do or how to make it happen, before there's a crisis, talk with someone who does. You really don't have to go it alone.

8. Finally, start NOW. After all . . . what's the best that can happen?

Remember, if you or someone you know is dreading facing their eldercare issues, discover the best that could happen through Generational Coaching.

Barbara Friesner

AgeWiseLiving LLC

Eldercare Issues Resolved By Choice, Not Crisis


Senior Care Consultant, Barbara E. Friesner, creator of The Ultimate Caregiver's Success System, is an expert on issues affecting Seniors and their families. Barbara hosted her own radio talk show - Age Wise Living - on VoiceAmerica/, and has been featured on NY1 TV's "Focus on Seniors", "Coping With Care giving" and on radio shows regarding senior care across the country.

In addition to her FREE weekly Senior care newsletter filled with tips for taking care of the elderly, Barbar...

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