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Human Connections

Written by: Jacqueline Sinfield

Article Overview: In order to lead a healthy, well balanced life, it is important to have some special people in your life. This makes you feel connected, loved, cared for and valued. We all need human connections to thrive and also to be the best we can be in this world. There are many qualities that make up a good friend. Here are three important ones:

Human Connections

In order to lead a healthy, well balanced life, it is important to have some special people in your life. This makes you feel connected, loved, cared for and valued. We all need human connections to thrive and also to be the best we can be in this world. There are many qualities that make up a good friend. Here are three important ones:

1. People who think you are amazing just as you are.
   
   One of my clients is very energetic and has a hard time sitting still. She tells stories with her arms as well as her voice and her friends love her extravagant gestures because it makes her who she is.
   
   When she started dating a man who was very conservative, he was embarrassed by her gestures and wanted her to change. This took a real toll on her confidence and self-esteem as she tried to conform to someone else's ideals.
   
   The moral of this story is to surround yourself with people who love you just the way you are. Who don't judge or try to change you.
   
   
2. People who lift you up when you are down.
   
   People with ADHD can receive lots of negative feedback from people, so it's important to counteract that with lots of positive comments from those nearest and dearest to you.
   
   One day, after experiencing one of life's setbacks, I phone a friend to share the experience. Towards the end of the conversation, I jokingly asked, "So, you still think I am the best thing since sliced bread?" My sentence was barely complete when she was uttering the word "BETTER!" with complete sincerity.
   
   We all need people like this. They are in your corner 100%, they say just the right thing to put things into perspective, make you laugh and generally lift you up when you are down.
   
   
3. People who are there to share the good times.
   
   Some people love a good sob story. They love it when you are down on your luck. They can commiserate with you and tell you their woes, too. However, not everyone is able to share the good times with you, too. The people who can are worth keeping close. They don't feel threatened by your achievements and accomplishments, and are genuinely delighted for you.
   
   Life does have its ups and downs and you want the people you're with to be able to share both with you.
   
   

The following five steps will help you to make these important human connections:

1. Think of who in your life is a "good person." Having wonderful people in your life does not happen by accident. It takes a little time and awareness on your part. So think about who is in your life at the moment. Feel grateful for the wonderful people who are already in it. Also be aware of those who no longer support you, so you can spend less time with them.



2. Remember that you deserve good people in your life. If you haven't been used to having them, it may seem a bit strange at first. However, you are not asking them to do or be anything you aren't to them.



3. If you already have people in your life who are amazing, then spend a few minutes thinking about how you could spend more time with them.



4. If there is room in your life for new people, spend a few minutes and think about how you could meet them. Joining groups where people share a common interest, such as a book group, is a great way, as is volunteering for a charity that captures your interest.



5. If you have had great friends in the past that you have lost touch with, try to reconnect with them. Facebook is a great tool to help you with this.

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