You don’t know know everything, all right? let’s just get it right out there on the table.
Most people’s ego’s are so inflated and so fragile that they won’t allow people to see them be bad at something.
I see every day people with this mentality that the world owes them something.
Don’t say, “Wow, that guy’s so lucky.” Say hey, that’s a fortunate dude, he’s very fortunate.
Andy Frisella’s Top 10 Rules For Success
Evan: He’s an entrepreneur, innovator, and businessman.
He started the MFCEO project website and podcast with a goal to inspire and motivate people in they’re business and lives.
In 2014, he was awarded Entrepreneur of the Year by the Secret Entourage Academy.
He’s Andy Frisella and here’s my take on his top 10 rules of success.
Rule number two is my personal favorite.
And make sure to stick around all the way to the end for some special bonus clips and as always if Andy says something that really, really resonates with you, please leave it down in the comments below and put quotes around it so other people can be inspired as well.
-= FRISELLA’S RULES =-
- Have humility
- Take a leap of faith
- Find your own path
- Have the right attitude
- Don’t focus on the past
- Stop believing in luck
- Do more!
- Commit fully
- Learn from losing
- Quit quitting
Execute the plan.
Follow your passion.
Put other people first.
Rule #1: Have humility
You don’t know everything, all right? Let’s just get it right out there on the table. I meet so many young entrepreneurs, they think they know everything, they want to know everything, they want to be the best at everything inside their company and guys that’s just not reality. Okay, you have to understand, winning in business is not about you personally as the CEO of a company being the best at every skillset.
Dude, I can’t put together graphics, I can’t put together videos, I can’t, there are certain things in my company that I have no clue on how to do but that’s okay.
You know what my job is? My job is to go out and find people that can do that far better than myself so that we can win as a team.
“You have to understand, winning in business is not about you personally as the CEO of a company being the best at every skillset.” – Andy Frisella
And this attitude of I’ve got to be the best, and I’ve got to win and I’ve got to, you know, and I’m the best at everything and I know more than you and blah, blah, blah, blah, that makes horrible leadership. Nobody respects that. Let me tell you what people do respect.
Owning a business, is not about being right
People respect when you look ’em in the eye and you say, “Hey, what do you think?” And then, they give you an answer and then it’s your job to decide whether or not on an honest playing field, whether or not that is the best thing to do or whether or not somebody else has the best thing to do, all right?
And that might be your idea, it might be another employee’s idea, it doesn’t matter as long as the best idea comes about and you are able to decide which one that is.
You guys have to understand and get over yourselves. Being in business, owning a business, is not about being right, okay? I see this also in the same thing as when people develop products for themselves versus understanding what the market likes, all right?
The same people who I just talked about that can’t accept the fact that they’re not always the best and that they’re not always right or the same people that develop products for the market based upon what they like and not based upon what the market likes.
The best leaders in the world are not the ones that are the smartest or the ones that are most right.
And you guys, all of you who fall in those groups, you better learn to do what I’m telling you to do or you’re going to be out of business. Because dude big egos, over-inflated egos, they come from insecurity, all right?
The only reason that you would act that way is that if you’re actually insecure about the amount that you truly know so you over inflate, puff your chest, feel like you need to be right and guess what, you’re usually wrong, your employees don’t respect you, your peers don’t respect you.
And this goes for you people who are in an office environment working for another company, owning a company, it goes for everybody listening.
You’re not always going to be right. That’s okay. The best leaders in the world are not the ones that are the smartest or the ones that are most right.
They’re the ones that can decipher who’s the best at which job, put in the right places to win and then also decide from a humble place and humble meaning understanding that you don’t know everything, which idea is going to be the best for everybody, okay?
Respect of your team
That’s your job, you’re the captain of the team, you’re the CEO, you’re the captain of the ship. If you’re going to steer the ship into rocks, just because you argued with your first mate about your path being right, you’re a idiot, okay?
It’s okay to not have all the answers, it’s okay to not be right, it’s okay to admit that you weren’t right and in fact, if you want the respect of your team and your peers, you will be willing and able to admit that you made mistakes, the minute that you make ’em.
Rule #2: Take a leap of faith
Here’s the deal, you want to know why most people can never get anywhere in life, why most people never live, never experience, never build, never do anything worthwhile in life besides being average and let me know, an average broke.
You know why? Because most people’s egos are so inflated and so fragile that they won’t allow people to see them be bad at something. Okay, let that sink in. You never done something before, you expect yourself to be awesome at it, you haven’t done the work, you haven’t put it the time, you haven’t put in the study hours, you haven’t had the experience but you expect to be good.
“Most people’s egos are so inflated and so fragile that they won’t allow people to see them be bad at something.” – Andy Frisella
And because you expect to be good but you know you’re not going to be good, you don’t do anything. Explain that to me, okay? You want to be somebody who succeeds, you want to be somebody who builds something, you want to be somebody who people write books about one day you’re going to have to be okay with being bad at for a long time.
When I first started in business, I didn’t even know what the I was selling, okay? I remember the first person coming in, they came in for a product that I didn’t even, it was called Cell-Tech by a company called MuscleTech, they came in, the dude obviously didn’t buy it, it wasn’t our first sale, he came and asked you about it.
I hate failing as much as the next guy.
I don’t even know what the fuck it was, okay? But I didn’t care ’cause I was going to figure it out, all right? And that’s the mentality you guys have to have. You have to be okay with looking like an idiot for a long time.
And a lot of you guys, you’d rather be too cool for school, you’d rather be the cool kids at the high school lunch table, than be the person who actually goes out, takes a leap of faith, decides they’re going to try something new, and actually becomes an expert at it over time.
Guys, you have to be okay not being good, all right? Every valuable lesson that you’re going to come across in your life is going to come from you something up A.K.A. failing, all right? And it, I hate failing as much as the next guy.
Understand that losing is a part of ultimately winning
Dude, I probably hold the record for the most broken Nintendo controllers on the face of the Earth because I hate losing and if I ever find the person in Zelda, they’re going to get a knuckle sandwich ’cause I could never beat that game but that’s the point, okay?
I hate to lose but the thing is is that once you understand that every time you lose is an opportunity for you to not only learn that lesson but take it a plus one step, okay? Listen to what I just said, a plus one step past the lesson, you’ll start to appreciate those lessons, you’ll start to be okay with not being good at.
Guys, you don’t want to be the guy that we talked about on the podcast whose 37 years old, living in your mom’s basement, yelling at her for a hot pocket, okay? Trolling people on the internet, you don’t want to be that guy. And if you don’t want to be that guy, you’re going to have to understand that losing is a part of ultimately winning.
I’ve learned to look at every single loss as an opportunity
You’re going to lose a lot more than you can win and when you win, you’re going to figure out how to get better on top of it.
If you’re a true winner, they don’t celebrate their wins. True winners take the win and they say, “How could I have even gotten better? “How could I ran the score up? “How could I have won by twice as many points?”
So you never really feel like you win and you have to be okay with that, okay?
There’s not one thing that I don’t look at in my life and say man how can I get better at that?
“I hate to lose but the thing is is that once you understand that every time you lose is an opportunity for you to not only learn that lesson but take it a plus one step” – Andy Frisella
How could I win at that?
How could I run the score up on that?
That’s how much I love to win but I look at every single loss, I’ve learned to look at every single loss as an opportunity of how to win more and that’s what you need too.
You don’t look at it like, hey everybody’s going to point and laugh and they might point and laugh. I could tell you a list a mile long of people who have told me, “Andy, you still got that “little vitamin shop? “Andy, what are you trying to be Tony Robbins? “Andy, when you’re going to get a real job?
Those are the same you asking me for jobs now, all right? You guys have to understand that if you are willing to be bad at, you will have the last laugh on these same people that that we’re talking about.
Rule #3: Find your own path
I think it’s important for people to understand at any time you step out of what’s normal in society, you’re going to have criticism. So many people follow the traditional plan with no thought whatsoever as to what they really want to do in life.
They go to school, they go to high school, they go to college, they get a degree, they get married, they have kids, then they wake up at 40 years old wondering, “What the happened and where did my life go?”.
And when I think about those things, I think about how much criticism we got when we started our first company, when we’re only 19 years old to do all the things that you’re supposed to do in society.
“Everybody’s got to find their own path and you have to realize that when you get on that path, you’re going to up, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re going to have bad ups like really bad but as long as you’re willing to learn and you’re willing to take those as lessons about and you’re smart enough to not make those same mistakes over and over and over again, there’s really nothing that you can’t do.” – Andy Frisella
All the people that used to tell us, “You guys waste your time, “you need to get a degree, “you need to get a real job, “you need to quit wasting your time with this hobby,” and those are the same people now that, they’re telling us how good of a job we did and how proud we are.
Everybody’s got to find their own path
I think about that a lot and I think people don’t realize that the same criticism that they get for doing anything outside of what’s considered normal that goes for anybody that tries anything outside of what’s normal.
And I think people need to realize that people are going to talk, they’re going to criticize but what’s more important, what’s more important is that you do what it is you think you need to do instead of changing your path for everybody else’s happiness because the reality is the people who judge you on doing anything different are the same people who can’t do it themselves.
And I feel like so many people get so wrapped up into what other people think that they ruin their entire lives living a life that they don’t even want to live.
Everybody’s got to find their own path and you have to realize that when you get on that path, you’re going to up, you’re going to make mistakes, you’re going to have bad ups like really bad but as long as you’re willing to learn and you’re willing to take those as lessons about and you’re smart enough to not make those same mistakes over and over and over again, there’s really nothing that you can’t do.
Rule #4: Have the right attitude
I see every day people with this mentality that the world owes them something and it’s popular now to talk about entitlement and everybody deserves and all these different things that people like to bitch and cry about but people come at life with the wrong attitude, okay.
And and they don’t like hearing the truth and the truth of the matter is this, the world owes you nothing, the world doesn’t think you’re special like your mom does, it doesn’t think you’re a delicate little flower, it doesn’t care about you.
Now, with that being said the world doesn’t hate you, it doesn’t want you to fail, it just is, okay? And I see so many people going through their life with this overwhelming feeling of either a, the world owes me something or b, the world hates me, and the reality is it’s neither.
And what’s common amongst this group of people that I find is that both these groups of people that I find is that they’re missing the understanding of what it means to be successful.
Service to other people is the only true way to find long-term success.
And let me let me get at exactly what the cause of this is. The cause this is their selfish, they’re self-centered, they’re self-focused, they’re only worried about what they see in the mirror and they go around through their daily life trying to manipulate the world in a way that’s going to serve them.
” If you want to be truly successful in life, you have to be selfless and you have to understand that being selfless and being of service to other people is the only true way to find long-term success.” – Andy Frisella
But here’s the thing guys, if that’s the way you go through life, if you go through life trying to figure out a way for the world to get you something, for you to be successful at the expense of others or for you to get ahead at the expense of others, your success or any success that you’re able to build or momentum you’re able to build is going to be very short-lived guys and that’s not the right way to do things, okay?
That’s why you see the same people who make money real fast, lose money real fast. That’s why you see the same people who have a little bit of success and then go back to the way they were and then they might find a new quote unquote thing to do and they make a little bit of money and they go back to the way they were.
And the problem with this mentality guys is that it’s a mentality that is not of service, okay? If you want to be truly successful in life, you have to be selfless and you have to understand that being selfless and being of service to other people is the only true way to find long-term success.
Rule #5: Don’t focus on the past
So many people in life, we all know these guys, right? They peaked at high school, they were prom king, they were quarterback of the team, and they go through life and you see ’em 10 years later and they’re they’re sitting at the bar on a Tuesday with the male pattern baldness and they’re like, “Oh bro, back in the day, I was the man,” and they can’t pay their bills or driving a hooker and they’ve turned into a basically a complete accelerated version of themselves which is a douche bag, and they haven’t done anything with their lives, right?
You have to stop this behavior
And we see these people all the time and the reason these people don’t progress is because they focus on the glory days, they focus on the things they have achieved in the past and they don’t let themselves work towards a better future. Guys, you have to be able to look at yourself and be honest with yourself on this. If this is you, you have to stop this behavior, okay?
When you focus on what you did last year or what you did two years ago or what you did last month or the award I wanted the company function or the sales numbers that I hit and beat everybody on this on the squad or whatever, when you focus on this guys, that is energy that you could be putting into actually improving and focusing on the task at hand which is today, okay?
“We see these people all the time and the reason these people don’t progress is because they focus on the glory days, they focus on the things they have achieved in the past and they don’t let themselves work towards a better future. Guys, you have to be able to look at yourself and be honest with yourself on this. If this is you, you have to stop this behavior” – Andy Frisella
Champions don’t sulk. Kobe Bryant doesn’t sit there and talk about how many MVPs he’s won or how many championships he’s won, no, the up at three o’clock in the morning practicing every day. Why do you think he is so great? He’s not great because he’s great. He’s great because he puts the working on a daily basis and he wins every day.
Rule #6: Stop believing in luck
Too many of you and too many people in society fall back on the word luck, not knowing the circumstances of someone else’s success. You see big things, you hear big things, you see people who do big things and you automatically say, “Wow that guy’s so lucky. “Wow, she’s so lucky. “Wow, that’s so lucky that that happened.”
You don’t know that, you’re assuming that, and let me tell you how insulting that sounds to somebody who has literally grinded their off to build something worthwhile, okay? I’m going to ask you one thing from this podcast is to substitute from now on the word luck for the word fortunate, okay? Don’t say, “Wow that guy’s so lucky.”
Say, “Hey, that’s a fortunate dude. “He’s very fortunate.” There’s a big difference in how that sounds and what that means and the metaphysical implications that stand behind your belief system when you say that.
” Too many people in society fall back on the word luck, not knowing the circumstances of someone else’s success.” – Andy Frisella
When you say, “Oh, that guy got lucky,” you’re telling the universe and you’re telling yourself subconsciously that you believe that you are not in control of your circumstances and guess what if that’s what you believe, you aren’t, but when you say, “Hey that guy is very fortunate,” you know what you’re saying? You’re saying, “I believe in control, “I believe that I am in control “and I believe that the consequences of my actions “are in my control.”
Please stop using the word luck
And there is a big difference not just in how you sound because you sound like a ignorant asshole when you say people are lucky they have worked their asses off but there’s a big difference in what the universe hears and what will play out when you use the different terms of fortunate versus lucky.
So, I’m going to ask you guys to please stop using the word luck when you talk about other people’s success and use the term fortunate.
It’s going to help you out, it’s going to help out your results, and it’s going to make you sound like not an asshole, okay? So, is there, ’cause right now, I know there’s this guy, right there, he’s listening, he’s saying, “But Andy, there is such a thing as luck, there is luck.”
Well no, there’s luck, like when you’re riding your bicycle down the road and a car hits a puddle of oil and does a donut and misses you by an inch, like we all see on these videos on Facebook, that’s luck, right?
That’s action and reaction
But going to work every day for 20 years or grinding your ass off and then becoming a multi-millionaire, that’s not luck, all right? That’s action and result, that’s action and reaction, that’s not luck, okay?
You weren’t there pointing at this dude who has the life that you want, you weren’t pointing out how lucky he was when he couldn’t pay his bills, you weren’t pointing out how lucky he was when he got evicted from his house trying to build this business, how about when he made less than what you made for the first 15 years holding on to his dream? You weren’t there saying he was lucky.
“Quit using a word luck, quit believing in luck because it doesn’t exist in terms of action reaction and start believing in work, start believing in fortunate, start believing in results that come from your actions and when you do that and you wholeheartedly believe it, guess what? That’s what starts to happen.” – Andy Frisella
How about a night when he’s crying to his wife about how stressed he is and how hard his life is and how he’s going to be homeless if he doesn’t pick up the results at work? You weren’t there saying, “Oh he’s lucky.”
You weren’t there when he couldn’t take a scholarship for five years saying, “Oh man, that dudes really lucky when his girlfriend left “because he’s a loser.” Or how about when he’s working at 2 a.m.? Or how about when he’s working on weekends and holidays when you’re out celebrate with your family? Where were you? You were saying he’s lucky, okay?
Start believing in work
You don’t know what lucky is because you’re all the story so quit using the word luck and start using the word fortunate. It’s going to do you a favor, it’s going to do you a service, and how you think about results and it’s going to make your what, it’s going to make you sound like not such an asshole because there’s nothing more insulting as somebody who grinded their ass off than when someone says, “He got lucky,” or “You’re so lucky.”
It makes me want to punch you in the eye, all right? Quit using a word luck, quit believing in luck because it doesn’t exist in terms of action reaction and start believing in work, start believing in fortunate, start believing in results that come from your actions and when you do that and you wholeheartedly believe it, guess what? That’s what starts to happen.
Rule #7: Do more!
What is the other thing that kills success? All right, and it is this mentality guys especially for you guys who are employees looking to create value amongst yourselves within a company and some business owners do this too, believe it or not, but they have the mentality that they’re going to show up, they’re going to put in their time, they’re going to do the bare minimum, okay, of what is expected of them and what they are paid for.
So, there’s a difference here that I wanted I want to delineate for you guys, all right? There are people who show up to work and hide in the corner and don’t do and expect to keep their job. Then, there are people who show up to work, put in the effort, do what they’re paid to do, and then go home and talk about how great of a employee or an asset they are to the company.
“If you don’t put in the extra on top of what is expected and what you’re paid to do, you’re going to be doing that same when you’re 40 because the myth that life is going to automatically manifest this whatever dream that is you have is not going to happen.” – Andy Frisella
All right guys, look, news flash, you are paid to do that, you cannot come to work and expect to do what you are paid to do and expect to become an extremely valuable, extremely important, extremely appreciated asset to a company, especially a growing company that is moving forward, guess what? You’re going to have to do more and nobody likes to hear that because they think, “Oh, that’s more work.”
They think they got life made
Well hey look, look at it this way, what you do and what you’re expected to do pays the bills, what you do on top of that and the investments you make at home and reading personal development, extra that you could bring to the company, ideas, the extra things, that’s an investment in your future, all right? So, you have what pays the bills now and then you have what’s going to pay the bills 20 years from now, all right?
And you have to think about that now so that in 20 years from now, you’re not going back and saying, “Man, I wish I would have done that,” because that’s something that so many young people think they got their $400 a month apartment, they they go out on the weekends, they’ve got wine, they’ve got beer, they’ve got a little weed and they smoke it, and they think they got life made.
And the reality is dude, you do not have life made because if you don’t put in the extra on top of what is expected and what you’re paid to do, you’re going to be doing that same when you’re 40 because the myth that life is going to automatically manifest this whatever dream that is you have is not going to happen.
Investment in your future.
You’re not going to flip the switch at 30 years old and have the big hous,e nice cars, and a fat bank account just because you wished it. You got to put in the work now and network compounds and accumulates and put you in a position to have that opportunity when you are of that age. If you guys are 20 years old and you’re saying, “Oh this guy’s old and he’s blah blah blah,” I’m talking out of experience. This doesn’t just happen.
So many of you young think that this just happens. You think, I’m going to show up, I’m going to put in my time and then I’m going to be rich and I’m going to be balling like Rick Ross you know and all these. What happens? You know what always likely going to happen with that attitude?
You’re going to be 37 years old living your mom’s basement, yelling at her for some meatloaf. That’s what’s going to happen, all right? So guys, you’ve got to do more, you’ve got to become valuable, you’ve got to understand that what you get pay to do is the minimum and everything on top of that is your investment in your future.
Rule #8: Commit fully
Once you’re in the company and once you’re dedicating your blood, sweat, and tears and life to a company, you have to be able to evaluate whether or not this company actually cares about you or not, all right?
You’ve got to make that decision on your own and you’ve got to make the decision on if they’re telling the truth and what’s the easiest way to tell someone’s telling the truth? Pay attention to their actions, pay attention to their history.
Do they show a history of growth?
Do they show a history of telling the truth?
Do they show a history of taking care of their employees?
Or are they just blowing a bunch of bullshit up your ass so then get you in their system for six years or a year or two years and lets you just pour in all your hard sweat labor?
Pick the right company from the get-go.
Cause I think that as a CEO, this is this is something that I feel like most employees are concerned with and what holds them back from giving their all, okay, and when you don’t give your all.
It doesn’t matter what position or what company you’re with, you’re not going to be successful and what I see what I’ve seen happen many, many times is that people lose trust in a company so they don’t give their all and then the company says, “Hey, you’re a worker,” and then they get fired.
It’s a vicious cycle that people get into so what I’m trying to get you guys to understand is that if you’re picking the right company, you should feel good about going all-in for that company knowing that in the next 10 to 15 years, you’re going to have a legitimate, well-paying, important, valuable part of that company and if you’re not, if you don’t see yourself doing that in 10, 15 years with a company, you’re in the wrong company, all right?
I’m trying to get you to avoid the vicious cycle of being an employee that goes every three years, gets frustrated, and quits, all right? Pick the right company from the get-go.
Rule #9: Learn from losing
You can choose to either accept that you lost or you can choose to use it as a lesson to improve. Winners in life, people who do well in life, it’s just like football when they lose, when they get their butts kicked like you guys did, they say, “All right hey, “look I didn’t do as good as I could have done.
“I didn’t prepare properly. “I didn’t execute properly. “I didn’t run the place properly,” and you know what, that’s why we lost but this week we’re going to go ahead and we’re going to say, “All right, “ABC, we’re not going to do those things,” we’re going to prepare properly, we’re going to execute properly, and we’re not going to give up early or ever.
“You can choose to either accept that you lost or you can choose to use it as a lesson to improve.” – Andy Frisella
If you guys want to be great at what you do, you have to understand that when you lose, that’s an opportunity to improve. When things happen bad that’s not the time that you go sit over in the corner, feel sorry for yourself, make excuses as to why you lost, you got to own the reasons that you lost.
Rule #10: Quit quitting
You know what, I’m going to tell you something right now. You should quit and you know what you should quit? You should quit quitting, all right? I want you to think about something and I want you to think about it in terms of your life.
Now, if you wanted to run a marathon but every time you got frustrated, every time you got tired, every time you got winded, every time you got sore, you turned around and went back to the starting line and started over because you were all of these things that are painful, would you ever complete the goal of running a marathon? Of course not. Guys, life is the same, success is the same.
Nothing worthwhile is going to be given to you, it’s going to be earned and it’s going to be earned through your pain, through your misery, through your suffering. None of it’s going to be easy guys and the factor that separates almost every single person in life that’s been successful is people that succeed quit quitting when things get hard.
Quitting is a habit, okay? Quitting is a mentality, it’s a it’s a core value of people, all right? They get a little bit down the road and either they don’t finish or they say, “Man this is hard, I’m going to try something else,” or, “Man this is hard I’m going to try doing this. “This isn’t for me because it’s hard, it’s all hard.” That’s what you don’t understand.
You need to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “What am I willing to do to get what I want?
Any path you take to get where you want to be, if that place is worth while to go, it’s going to be hard. So quit judging, you’re quitting or you’re wanting to do something else based upon how far something is because every single path that you could possibly take to get somewhere where you want to be is going to be hard. That’s just a fact of reality of this Earth but that’s what you have to understand.
Struggle, pain, misery, frustration, those are signs and that you are a, on the right path and b, making progress. You have to learn to identify these things as indications that you are on the right path, okay?
Nobody that is where you want to be has gotten there without these struggles, without the bleeding, without the pain, without the depression, without the misery, nobody. So, what makes you think that you’re going to be able to be that person that gets there with none of those things?
“Nothing worthwhile is going to be given to you, it’s going to be earned and it’s going to be earned through your pain, through your misery, through your suffering. None of it’s going to be easy guys and the factor that separates almost every single person in life that’s been successful is people that succeed quit quitting when things get hard.” – Andy Frisella
Guys, life is hard, success is really hard. and if you want to be something big, you want to dream big, you want to be something great, you are going to have to learn to accept that struggle as part of the recipe, okay?
Every single day, you need to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, “What am I willing to do to get what I want? If the answer is whatever the I have to, you’ll probably get there in time but if it’s anything less, you won’t, and that’s just the fact of life, guys.
Evan: Thank you guys so much for watching. I made this video because Michael Bailey asked me to so there’s a famous entrepreneur that you want me to profile next, leave it down the comments below and I’ll see what I can do.
I also love to know what did Andy say that really inspired you, motivated you. What did you take from this video that you’re going to apply to your life or your business? Leave it down the comments. I’m going to join in the discussion.
Thank you again for watching. I believe in you, I hope you continue to believe in yourself in whatever your one word is. Much love, I’ll see you soon.
Execute The Plan
People start effing themselves. All right, they say, “Oh I got this great idea “but what if I do all this work and it doesn’t work? “What if I put in all this time “to become an excellent employee and I don’t get promoted? “What if I put in all this work “to become an excellent salesman and I don’t sell?” What if, what if, what if, and I’ll tell you what if. What if you don’t do,where are you going to be? ‘Cause it is going to be any better than where you are now, all right?
It’s very easy for people who are in the beginning levels of success or the beginning levels of their success journey to tell themselves stories that other people’s circumstances are better than theirs, that the other people have rich parents, they’ve got luck, they’ve got better circumstances, they’ve got less obstacles, and they say and I understand that if you just do the work, you’ll get the result but what if they want to believe it, they want to succeed but at the end of the day, they don’t do it because they talk themselves out of it, all right? This is easily the number one thing that keeps people from succeeding.
Success is cause and effect, not magic, luck, or magic fairy dust.
It’s the number one thing that keeps people where they are, it’s the number one thing that keeps people broke, it’s the number one thing that keeps people in a situation of frustration or basically regret and and what ends up happening is is that they end up going through their life accepting what they’re dealt up, doing what they’re told and they end up at 50,60 years old wondering what happened.
Well, I’m going to tell you what happened. You talked yourself out of going after what you were supposed to go after. You talked yourself out of your purpose, you talked yourself out of the idea that success is cause and effect, not magic, luck, or magic fairy dust.
“If you do the work and you do it for a long enough time and you have at least average intelligence, you will be successful, period, end of story.” – Andy Frisella
That’s what happened and that’s the number one thing that keeps people from succeeding. It’s the what if story that they tell themselves over and over and over again as to why they can’t move forward and other people can.
Why if they do the work, it still isn’t going to work out. Success is easy guys, it’s easy. It’s making a plan and executing the plan every day, it’s that easy, it’s that easy, okay? And people will be like, “Andy, it’s not that easy.
“There’s got to be luck to it. “My friend, he created the super snuggie snowball machine “and it made a hundred million dollars in one day.” Well, you ain’t your friend. You’re a regular dude just like me and I’m telling you and you could choose to believe whatever you want to believe but the reality is this.
The average guy
Make a plan, work the plan, make a plan, work the plan, make a plan, work the plan, and whenever the plan doesn’t work, you change the plan. That’s called failure, it’s called learning the lessons, called adjusting on the run.
You are not going to have a perfect plan from start to finish just because you thought of an idea. That’s reality, so we talk about the what if story you’re telling yourself the whatif story you’re trying to justify your fear with, it’s bull, it’s bull. If you do the work and you do it for a long enough time and you have at least average intelligence, you will be successful, period, end of story.
Now, you can accept that or you could go out and you can look for all the little exceptions. You can look for the glory stories, the guys who make millions of dollars in one year which they don’t, you know, it doesn’t happen to the average guy.
If you do the work, the result will be there, period.
You go out there and say, “Oh they got lucky. “Look, that’s all luck, it’s all luck,” or you can accept the fact that for people who don’t get lucky like us, that there is a way to still do it which is to make a plan and execute the plan and do that relentlessly consistently over the course of 10 years and you’ll be where you want to be, all right? I’m a smart person, I’m not overly intelligent, I just make a list every day and execute on it.
I don’t worry about what if. I don’t think about what if I do this and it doesn’t work out the way I want? I know that it’ll work out in some way and because I’m smart enough to adjust the plan on the way, I know that it will at least end up somewhere close to where I want to be. It’s not that hard. We’re over complicating it, there are no what ifs. If you do the work, the result will be there, period.
Follow Your Passion
Follow your passion and not chase money and you’ll hear people say that and it doesn’t make sense because they think like it sounds like such a like abstract thing, like follow your passion.
It’s like this like all positive thinking mantra or whatever but the reality is is that business is really, really, really, really hard and if you’re in business and you’re doing it just for the money and you’re not doing it because you really care, what’s going to happen is is when things get tough, it’s going to be easy for you to quit because the money is not enough reward, no.
It has to come down to doing something that you’re passionate about, something that you love, something that you that you want to get up and do every day because that way, when you’re not making money and the money’s not there, you still do it anyway and you get better anyway, so it makes it easier for you to continue to get better and improve which is what’s required for you to ultimately reach the goal.
So, I really think that following a passion is a requirement of being successful for the simple fact that it makes it almost impossible to quit. So, try to figure out what it is your passionate about, what it is that you enjoy, and you’re going to naturally become better, you’re going to naturally endure the times of when it’s hard because you love it.
Put Other People First
But the thing is, guys, you have to understand that everybody up here, puts other people first. Everybody here teaches, everybody here inspires. It’s not about me, okay?
That’s why I see a lot of people getting off track ’cause I get asked all the time and I’ve been asked a hundred times today. “I want to build this business or want to build a following. “I want to do this, I want to do that.” It’s very simple, make it about the other person, make it about what you can give not what you take, and everything else takes care of itself.