Good morning, Believe Nation. Today’s message is: Be Yourself. Over to you, Whoopi Goldberg.
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Well, my life is a class if I was to say, it probably teaches that you can be yourself and an individual if you are comfortable with not everybody liking you or how you think.
“The price of being yourself is, you know, other people’s angst about you being yourself.” – Whoopi Goldberg
If you’re comfortable with going against the grain. If you’re comfortable with people making fun or saying really nasty stuff. If you’re comfortable with all of that, then you can be yourself. That’s the price. The price of being yourself is, you know, other people’s angst about you being yourself.
Evan: I think this is such an important message for entrepreneurs because if you want to have success, as an entrepreneur, in life, but especially as an entrepreneur, if you want to have success it has to come from you being you. From you being willing to break the rules. From you being willing to express yourself. From you being willing to fail publicly and know that even the fact that you were willing to try and fail is an inspiration.
Use it as an inspiration not just to yourself, but to others around you. And the people who are watching you, and judging you and throwing tomatoes at you and saying you’re not good enough and saying that was such a stupid mistake and laughing at you. You have to learn to ignore them. Because if you just constantly live your life according to other people’s judgments and expectations of you, then you’re never going to have success. You’re living up to somebody’s expectation who’s never done what you want to do! Your family or friends or people in your community who are saying that you can’t do this, and you should be doing this, you should go down this path instead of doing, staying here and going here, you should be going down this path according to them.
” If you want to have success, as an entrepreneur, in life, but especially as an entrepreneur, if you want to have success it has to come from you being you.” – Evan Carmichael
Well have they done what you want to do? So you’re living your life according to what these people’s judgments are? You’re never going to have success. You’re just going to be a smaller version of them, and chances are, they haven’t done much either. So take the little that they’ve done and be smaller because that’s not you. Congratulations, that’s a happy life. You can’t just be a copy of somebody. You can’t shave your head, wear a Believe hoodie, you come on and do top ten videos and expect them to do as well as mine. You can’t outdo Evan Carmichael.
You can’t out-Evan Evan. Just like I can’t out-you you. Don’t copy me. Go and do you. Don’t say yes because somebody wants you to. Say yes because it’s meant for you. The thing that I might disagree with with Whoopi is that to get to the comfort, you need to go through discomfort. It’s like saying, don’t be afraid. It’s going to work out, don’t be afraid. You’re going to be afraid! It’s okay to be afraid! It’s okay to have fear standing up to somebody. It’s okay to have fear putting something out in the public that you don’t know is going to work or not. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s not don’t feel the fear, it’s feel the fear and do it anyway.
It’s feel that fear that people are putting on you or you’re putting on yourself that this may not work, that this expression of myself, I’m pouring my heart out here and people may not accept it. And people may laugh at it. People say that it’s stupid and it’ll never work. Pouring it out there anyway. Because you know that it has to be released. Because you need to know. Here’s a quick personal example. When I first started doing these videos here, I did it at Toronto Dance Salsa and we’re in a mall, and there’s people walking by constantly and there’s people who look in every now and then and see what’s happening in here.
“It’s okay to have fear putting something out in the public that you don’t know is going to work or not. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s not don’t feel the fear, it’s feel the fear and do it anyway.” – Evan Carmichael
What’s this guy doing in the dance studio with lights and a book behind him talking and yelling into a camera, what’s he doing? And at the start, that was something that I was sensitive about. And in between, it’s even worse. Like in between the clips, I have my head… I have my headphones on, and I’m dancing. I’m doing this. I’m walking around the studio, doing this. You see? There’s somebody watching me right now.
That’s how I, this is what I’m doing. Walking the studio. Dancing. Thinking about what I’m going to say next. And people are walking by. And I would let that hold me back. I would let their judgments make me play small, so instead of doing my dancing I’m doing this, I’m doing it smaller.
Why am I letting myself play smaller because of some stranger’s expectations of me? Why are you letting yourself play smaller because of strangers’ expectations of you? You will only have success by being you, by letting the thing that is different about you come through. And at the start, since you’re nurturing it, since you’re starting it off, it’s the start of anything, you’re going to suck at it. It’s not going to be the best expression.
It’s not going to have a fantastic result, chances are. And so don’t expect it. Expect it to fail at the start, that’s okay. You keep going. If you keep practicing, I promise you, you’ll get to the point where it’s comfortable. Where you don’t care.
Where you can let go of their expectations. Just like working out, your muscles will get stronger. But when you first start doing it, you need to recognize that it’s going to be scary, that it’s going to be uncomfortable, and it’s through that obstacle, it’s through the discomfort that you get the comfort. Comfort is on the other side of the discomfort. The answer isn’t crouch back and be a small version of yourself. ‘Cause if you stay here, you’re always going to stay here, your whole life. And you have to break through to get to what you can be.
“Expect it to fail at the start, that’s okay. You keep going. If you keep practicing, I promise you, you’ll get to the point where it’s comfortable.” – Evan Carmichael
So the question of the day today is, I’m curious, what was the biggest thing that you had to break through, the biggest discomfort that you had to break through to be yourself?
Leave it in the comments below. I’m going to join in the discussion. I also want to give a quick shout out to Vamsi Polimetla. Thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, “Your One Word.” It really, really, really means a lot to me.
So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of Entspresso.
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