Good morning, believe nation. My name is Evan Carmichael. My one word is believe and I believe that entrepreneurs will solve all of the world’s major problems. So to help you on your journey, today’s message is, motivation is garbage.
Change Your Decision
We bought into this complete falsehood that at some point you’re going to have the courage. At some point you’re going to have the confidence. And it’s total bull****. Absolutely. It’s complete garbage.
And so there are so many people in the world, and you may be watching this right now, and you have these incredible ideas and what you think is missing is motivation. And that’s not true.
Because the way that our minds are wired, and the fact about human beings is that we are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable or scary or difficult.
Our brains are designed to protect us from those things. Because our brains are trying to keep us alive.
And in order to change, in order to build a business, in order to be the best parent, the best spouse, to do all those things that you know you want to do with your life, with your work, with your dreams, you’re going to have to do things that are difficult, uncertain or scary, which sets up this problem for all of us.
You’re never going to feel like it. Motivation is garbage. You only feel motivated to do the things that are easy, right?
Because I’ve studied this so much, because for me, one of the hardest things to figure out was why is it so hard to do the little things that would improve my life?
And what I’ve come to realize and what we’ll talk a lot about today is that the way that our minds are designed, is our minds are designed to stop you at all costs from doing anything that might hurt you.
Why are we hesitating
And the way that this all happens is, it all starts with something super subtle that none of us ever catch, and that is with this habit that all of us have that nobody’s talking about.
We all have a habit of hesitating.
We have an idea. You’re sitting in a meeting. You have this incredible idea. And instead of just saying it, you stop and you hesitate.
Now, what none of us realize is that when you hesitate just that moment, that micro-moment, that small hesitation, it sends a stress signal to your brain.
It wakes your brain up and your brain all of a sudden goes oh, wait a minute. Why is he hesitating? He didn’t hesitate when he put on his killer spiky sneakers.
He didn’t hesitate with the really cool track pants. He didn’t hesitate with the NASA t-shirt. Now he’s hesitating to talk, something must be up.
“Your life comes down to your decisions and if you change your decisions, you will change everything. ” – Mel Robbins
So then your brain goes to work to protect you. It has a million different ways to protect you. One of them is called the spotlight effect.
It’s a known phenomenon where your brain magnifies risk. Why? To pull you away from something that it perceives to be a problem.
And so you can truly trace every single problem or complaint in your life to silence and hesitation. Those are decisions.
And what I do and what’s changed my life is waking up and realizing that motivation is garbage.
I’m never going to feel like doing the things that are tough or difficult or uncertain or scary or new. So I need to stop waiting until I feel like it.
And number two, I am one decision away from a totally different marriage, a totally different life, a totally different job, a totally different income, a totally different relationship with my kids.
“You can truly trace every single problem or complaint in your life to silence and hesitation. Those are decisions.” – Mel Robbins
Not like one decision, I’m divorcing you, in the marriage example. But one decision on, you could be having a conversation with your spouse and you feel your emotions rise up and within a tiny window those emotions can take over and can impact how your marriage goes.
Or, you can learn how to take control of that micro-moment and make a decision to act in a way that actually shifts your marriage. Your life comes down to your decisions and if you change your decisions, you will change everything.
Here is my take about Change Your Decision
So I don’t know that I agree completely that motivation is absolute garbage.
I’ve seen motivation work for me. I’ve put on a Tony Robbins CD and then want to go off and do amazing things and I did.
I took action. I took all my gear and I went out and would do something that I was afraid of doing and I took action on it. So I know that it can work.
The challenge is, we don’t have Tony Robbins chasing around us all the time telling us to go and do something. And that kind of motivation is super short.
I don’t wake up every day, life is amazing, I can’t wait to go crush it, this is insane.
And so that kind of motivation comes in bursts and I think can be helpful, but it’s hard to keep a consistent and practical and ongoing basis.
Because even if I listen to that CD again or even if I watch that video again, it starts to lose its impact.
If you watch the same video over and over and over again, the first time it might be really motivating. It might make you go do something.
And then you watch it again and the impact’s not there, and the third, fourth, by the time you get to the fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, tenth time, it’s like yeah, I’ve heard that message before. You know, I’ve heard that.
And it’s not motivating anymore. And so that’s why it’s really hard to keep that external motivation going.
Have an environment that is designed to help you be more successful.
I think what’s much more practical, at least for me I’ve seen it work consistently in my life, is one, having an environment that is designed to help you be more successful.
So figure out what you want and where it is. Mine is believe. I want to have an environment that makes me believe in myself and the great things that I’m trying to do on a daily basis, on a consistent basis.
The habits that you have on a consistent basis, the people that you surround yourself with, the media that you consume, the books that you read, your physical environment, it all matters. It all has an impact, every single day.
And the confidence that I’ve gained over the past few years and how much of this come out on the videos that I’ve made for you guys, is in great part due to the videos that I’ve watched, the videos on my channel.
By surrounding myself consistently with successful people. Not just entrepreneurs, people. The way they act, the things they say, their mindset, the way they interpret information.
The patterns start to consistently come in, over and over and over again, whether it’s a Michael Jordan or a Mel Robbins or an Arnold Schwarzenegger or Bill Gates or Tony Robbins or whoever it is.
You start to see that these people think in a certain way. And the more you see it, not just what they say to do, not just do this step, but how they do it, how they react to questions, being around them.
“The environment that you have when you have the self-awareness to know what your one word is and build an environment around it and habits and routines really is important.” – Evan Carmichael
Because I can’t be around Steve Jobs, right? He passed away. I’m not going to go visit his grave. I can’t be around him anymore. But I can with the videos. At least it works well for me.
And the more I’m around that, the more it makes me want to raise up my game. The more it makes me feel like I want to go off and do bigger things.
And it’s allowed me to have bolder goals, to be more controversial, to be more myself, to be more outgoing, to chase bigger things, to challenge people more. I keep doing it, right?
And so I think the environment that you have when you have the self-awareness to know what your one word is and build an environment around it and habits and routines really is important.
Catch You Fear
The second thing I would say about motivation is, I like to do trade-offs around short-term fear and long-term fear. And so the trick is catching the fear.
And the trick is catching yourself when you’re in the moment, when you’re playing small, when you’re not doing the big thing you should be doing, when you’re just super afraid and you disguise it as some practical reason.
You’ve convinced yourself there’s a logical reason why you’re not doing it. We just naturally play small when somebody asks you to do things. Come on my YouTube channel and be a guest.
And most people are like, oh, that’s too big an opportunity. And I’m like, you have this opportunity! And then they justify it with all these reasons, right?
I’m not ready.
I don’t have a good message.
I don’t have the gear.
I don’t have a webcam.
I don’t have a microphone.
All of these reasons why they can’t do it but really, they’re just afraid. That’s the problem, they’re just afraid. But it’s catching the fear. They’re not catching it. They’re pushing it off with practicality but it’s really fear.
And so I try to catch that fear and then replace it with longer-term bigger fear. That’s it.
So this one thing that I’m afraid of doing versus one hundred years old, looking back on my life, you know, sixty years of regret. That’s scary. That’s what I try to avoid.
I tell this story about this girl in Paris that I met where I wanted to ask her out and I didn’t and I was too afraid and I took a picture and I didn’t actually catch her in the picture, I tried.
But I had this French scenery that I put up on my wall at my university room, because it was a reminder not to let opportunities pass by.
But the next time that I had an opportunity to ask somebody out, to say yes to a business, to do whatever the thing is I think in my head, that would be cool to do. But then the fear comes in. I’m going to take action.
I didn’t want to live with the regret.
And looking at that poster every day reminded me so that when I had that opportunity to join a startup company a couple of months later versus taking the job that I thought I always wanted, I had that picture in my head saying, this business may not work out. This startup company that I’m about to join may not work out.
Versus having this safe job that I thought I always wanted, paying 80 to $100,000 a year. But I didn’t want to live with the regret. I didn’t want to live with the regret.
I could deal with the failure. I could deal with the pain of it not working out.
I could give it six months or 12 months and if it doesn’t work out, but I know. At least I know. I should have asked that girl in France out. So at least I know, right?
And ever since then I’ve tried to make that same approach to important decisions in my life. I try to ask myself, yes, I’m afraid of this.
If I can catch it, if I can catch the fear, I’m afraid in the moment, but if I don’t do this, am I going to regret this for the rest of my life?
And if the answer is yes, then I know I have to do it and I force myself to do it. And it works. At least, it works for me.
Question Of The Day
So the question of the day to day is, I’m curious, what do you think of motivation? How do you deal with? Does it help you long-term, short-term? I’m very curious about your habits and your general thoughts on motivation. Leave it down in the comments below. I’m excited to see what you have to say.
I also want to give a quick shout to Mel Busolo. Mel, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word. It really means a lot to me and I hope you enjoyed the read. So thank you guys so much for watching.
I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of Entspresso .
Decision making is a process, right? The question is, what filters are you using to make decisions.
Are you making decisions based on the financial rewards or are you making decisions based on how easy the work will be?
I remember in college they would give you this book where all the students would rate the classes and the would rate things like how easy the class was, and how much they liked the professor.
The first year I picked all my classes based on workload, and I picked everything a low workload.
Pretty bored, didn’t work very hard, which was fine, but nothing was dynamic and nothing really excited me.
Thank goodness, learned that and so the second year I picked all my classes by professor rating, regardless of the workload.
So every class I had, I had these dynamic, amazing, incredible human beings passing on their knowledge and you were excited to work hard for them.
And so again, the question is, what are the filters we’re using? So if you’re only chasing the mighty dollar, then you will have jobs that will pay you a little more than the last, but are you enjoying yourself?
Chasing the almighty dollar
And I talked to a guy recently, who was in, he’s in bad shape. He really hates his life and he’s really depressed and he doesn’t know what to do.
And so we’re going through all his old jobs and I said, give me a job that you’ve loved. And he hadn’t.
Every single job he’s chosen out of college, he picked because of the money and if something offered him more somewhere else, he took it, regardless.
And the amazing thing is, he plateaued. Because if you’re only chasing the result, if you’re only chasing the thing that makes it easy, right, then eventually you will get bored or they’ll get bored of you, and you plateau.
“I’ve made decisions in my life that I would rather be happy than right.” – Simon Sinek
In other words, chasing the almighty dollar, if that’s your only thing, it eventually flattens out.
Whereas if you’re chasing the thing that excites you, the human beings to be around, the work that excites you, the stuff that, you know, you can get passionate about.
The irony is that you’ll actually make way, way more. Because you’re excited and they appreciate your excitement and they reward your excitement and you’re better at your work because you want to work harder and all that stuff.
You don’t have to strain to work harder. So decision-making is simply a matter of filters. And so I’ve made decisions in my life that I would rather be happy than right.
I’d rather do good than get rich. And so the decisions I make put me in positions where, when I leave any engagement, when I leave any meeting, I feel that I’ve contributed.
“Decision-making is just a matter of what filters you use and if you’re good about keeping those filters up and clear, then make your decision.” – Simon Sinek
Rare are the times anymore when you walk around going, just think of the money, just think of the money, think of the money, you know.
Because that doesn’t feel nice. And the experience I have, I don’t enjoy traveling to them and I don’t enjoy traveling home.
Where if I have an amazing experience, I am looking forward to getting there and I’m excited when I leave.
So it’s just decision, decision-making is just a matter of what filters you use and if you’re good about keeping those filters up and clear, then make your decision.
I don’t judge anybody by how, if they choose to use different filters. These are just the filters I choose to live my life.
Not right or wrong, just those are my decisions. That’s my filter.