Good morning Believe Nation, today’s message is compromise. Over to you Ryan Gosling.
♫ I wake up every morning ♫ Espresso keep me going ♫ I wake up every morning
I think compromise… is integral to the creative process, and it’s more about finding a way to make those compromises into opportunities and not see them as obstacles.
Otherwise you can get really stuck. I think that’s the only way to keep moving forward and being creative.
Evan: So this is an interesting message for this channel because so often people are coming in, saying go for it, never give up, go, push harder and here’s a message saying compromise. And I think it’s actually when you look at the most successful entrepreneurs and the most successful leaders, it’s both. It’s the genius of the and.
You will see that the most successful leaders are insanely stubborn for the why but insanely flexible about the how and this is where a lot of entrepreneurs will fall short because you’re so obsessed about doing this thing in a particular way that it may not work out and chances are it won’t.
Chances are that product that you want to put out, people may not like the design, they may not like the functionality, it may not work exactly as you thought it would and you need to tweak it, you need to change it, you need to listen, you need to compromise.
But what you won’t compromise is the big vision. What you won’t compromise on, is your one word, your value right, like this is what you stand for and that’s the line in the sand and you’re not going to go over it. Where I think most people are stubborn about small things, I think most people are stubborn about the wrong things.
“Most successful leaders are insanely stubborn for the why but insanely flexible about the how and this is where a lot of entrepreneurs will fall short because you’re so obsessed about doing this thing in a particular way that it may not work out and chances are it won’t.” – Evan Carmichael
I think most people are so stubborn that they hold themselves back because they’re not willing to compromise to get to the big goal. What you need to have, is the ego to believe that you can do the big thing, the confidence and the boldness to go and chase that big dream and then at the same time, the humbleness for the cause.
You can do this big thing, you’re confident you have the ego to do it but the humbleness to do anything needed to go out and do it. Maybe that means you have to sweep the floors. Anything! The great leaders will do anything to move their cause forward, as long as it falls within the lines of who they are but nothing is beneath them.
They’ll get on the assembly line and start making products if they need to, they’ll make the phone calls if they need to, they’ll sweep the floors if they need to. And so, if you’re being stubborn about something right now I would really challenge you to think, “Does this actually matter?” Because the most important thing is advancing the cause.
“Most people are so stubborn that they hold themselves back because they’re not willing to compromise to get to the big goal.” – Evan Carmichael
Stubbornness around the why, the mission, the cause and flexibility around the execution and how to do it. That’s my thoughts. What do you think?
I want to know, in your life, in your business, what is non-negotiable, what are you not willing to compromise on, I’m curious. Leave in the comments below, I want to see your answers. I also want to give a big shout out to Jeff. Jeff, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word, it really really really means a lot to me man, appreciate the support.
Thank you guys for watching, I believe in you, I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of Espresso.
♫ I wake up every morning ♫ Espresso keep me going
Evan: What’s up Believe Nation. To add some more perspective on this idea of compromising, I’m going to put a couple more bonus clips that I hope you’ll enjoy.
I have no education, I had no high school diploma, I didn’t even have a GED because I quit high school halfway through grade 10. I didn’t have a lot of options, I would be dishwasher, a waiter, a custodial worker of some sort. So I decided I might as well go and do something creative, I decided to go to the comedy store, Laugh Factory and The Improv, all of those clubs every night and make my 25 bucks a pop, a set.
It was my version of being a waiter, it was a compromise I decided to make. Out of that came “In Living Color” and out of that came touring, auditoriums, 5,000 seaters. It was a really creative time. I was able to prove, that I didn’t have to be an impressionist, that I had a personality of my own and however abrasive it might be from time to time.
“Just have faith, sometimes compromise is actually the way to get to what you want.” – Jim Carey
Long story short, all of it came from that compromise, from that deciding to do what I didn’t want to do. The things you can’t do or the things you’re not allowed to do, like if the executives come and say you can’t do that, whatever it is, it’s too expesnive, you get angry, you get out of your mind about it because you’ve been clinging to this concept and this image that you have of how it should be done, and invariably, most times, after that storm has passed and you actually sit down and go okay, we can’t do it that way, how can we do it, you end up with something even better than what was there before and you go, that’s the universe and that’s how it works.
It’s like relationships, it’s like everything. The thing that is taken away, that you’re clinging to, that you’re trying to fix and you’re trying to secure it, make sure it doesn’t go away. You think your life will be destroyed, everything will be ruined and it’s just the universe going, no, I have something better for you. Just have faith, sometimes compromise is actually the way to get to what you want.
I have a certain gene in my body that allows me to understand what someone else is saying when they say we want to sell a lot of these things. Like I don’t see selling a bunch of something, as the opposite of it being interesting, or important, or meaningful. I’ve always seen it from both sides and it’s a really interesting place that I’m in right now.
“I’m trying to take all the elements of music that I love, that I’m well versed in and convert them into music that a lot of people can get into.” – John Mayer
You do have to balance. If you saw my iTunes playlist, I could have a conversation with anybody at Stereogum or Pitchfork but what I do with Columbia Records as the artiste that I am with the records that I make under the contract that I have, I’m taking all of my influences and I’m trying to convert them into pop music, that’s my job right now.
It’s not the only thing I can do, and it’s not the only thing I will do, but as long as I’m still trying to make pop songs, I want to play by pop rules. I want to listen to top 20 and figure out what’s going on, I don’t want to fall behind.
I’m trying to take all the elements of music that I love, that I’m well versed in and convert them into music that a lot of people can get into. I don’t know why I do that. A lot of people can’t, a lot of people find the compromise maddening. I see it as another challenge and I see it as another talent, like the ultimate talent of restraint.
All film-making is intelligent compromise, that’s the whole process we go through. I mean, Con will be able to vouch for this, no matter what your budget, you never have enough time you never have enough money.
It’s weird when you’re doing a huge film, you’re in the same position you were, when you were doing a tiny film. And there’s a good reason for that, you’re always trying to get as much on screen as you possibly can.
“All film-making is intelligent compromise, that’s the whole process we go through.” – Christopher Nolan
And so whatever the box that’s built for you by the economics of the project you’re always trying to push up against those walls and so you need help from your team in terms of how arrange things and how you make that work.
Waking up every morning and compromising.
You have this idea, this ideal of what you want to do that day and you then, you know, it just gets stripped away and stripped away and stripped away and stripped away, except for those magnificent moments when they cast does something that you couldn’t imagine and you go wow, that is really awesome.
And then you immediately get a feeling of dread, because you’re expecting then as soon as you say cut, that someone will say yeah, we missed the focus, there was a boom in the shot, there was an extra in the background, who tripped and fell, whatever the thing is that ruined the moment, that you may not get back again.