Good morning, Believe Nation!
Today’s message is follow your own dreams. Over to you PewDiePie.
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Follow your own goddamn dreams. Not what your mom wants you to do, not what your dad wants you to do, not what you think you should be doing, but doing what you want to do more than anything. It’s been said so many times before, but really, if you don’t make your own decisions in life, someone else is going to make them for you, and by the end of it, you won’t be happy. So you might as well do what it is you want to do.
“Follow your own goddamn dreams. Not what your mom wants you to do, not what your dad wants you to do, not what you think you should be doing, but doing what you want to do more than anything.” – Felix Arvid Ulf Kjellberg (Pewdiepie)
So I think somewhere along the lines, in everyone’s life, you have to make the decision at some point, whether you are living your version of your life, or someone else’s version of your life. Because along the way, people are always going to have opinions on what you should and shouldn’t do. They’re going to have opinions on what career you should take, have opinions on what school you should go to, have opinions on whether to start that business or not, to move to that country or not, have opinions on what color socks you’re going to wear today.
“People will have opinions on everything.” – Evan Carmichael
People will have opinions on everything. And if all you do is live your life according to other people’s opinions and expectations, you are never going to get to the point where one, you’re happy, and two, you’re actually doing the thing that you can be great at. It’s not going to happen. Now, in the early days of being a human being, you listen to your parents, right? You go to the classes and schools that they send you to and you listen to them, and hopefully you’re a little bit respectful, as well. But as you get older, at some point, you need to realize that you’re an adult human being. And you need to make decisions and take accountability for your life, as well.
If you’re not where you want to be, if you’re in the wrong major, if you’re taking the wrong classes, if you’re in the wrong business or wrong career, it’s not your parents’ fault, it’s not your friends’ fault, it’s not your advisor’s fault. It’s your own fault. You, that’s it, it’s your fault. You are where you are because of you, period. You can’t blame other people for your decisions for the rest of your life. So if you want to break free, you have to take that responsibility and start doing something about it. I find that you’re going to have two kinds of people who will be the haters in your life. The people who will give you the bad advice, the wrong advice, the unsupportive advice.
“If you’re not where you want to be, if you’re in the wrong major, if you’re taking the wrong classes, if you’re in the wrong business or wrong career, it’s not your parents’ fault, it’s not your friends’ fault, it’s not your advisor’s fault. It’s your own fault.” Evan Carmichael
The first group is going to be the people who are jealous of you. The people who are just nasty people, haters of the little man, and they tell you all the reasons why you can’t do the thing that you want to do. You want to go and start that business, they tell you how you don’t have the education, the connections, and the money, and the resources, and you’ve never done them before, and who are you to think you can go out and do that. No one from this town has ever gone on and done something that big.
All of those people. And often, if you look at their life, it’s really just based out of fear, insecurity, and jealousy. Maybe at one point, they took a big shot, they tried to follow their dream, they tried to do something important, and it didn’t work out. And because they didn’t have success, now nobody around them can have success. Now every idea or everybody who tries to do something on their own, that’s a bad idea, and they need to be the anchor for everybody around them. Right? You’re trying to rise up, and they want to pull you back down. They’re going to be that anchor around you. And those are the easier people, actually, to ignore.
Their words may sting, they may be more visceral and more angry with you, but recognizing that they haven’t done the thing that you want to do makes it easier. It’s now the second group who are the people who are doing it out of love. They’re not doing it out of fear and jealousy, they’re doing it out of love. You know, your parents may tell you not to go out and start that business, not to go out and chase that dream of yours. Your closest friends may tell you that’s really risky. Don’t go out and do that. And they’re doing it out of love, because they care about you. It’s not that they’re jealous or they hate you. They love you. The challenge is, they see success, success through their eyes, through their narrow, limited view, right? And success may be go out and get a safe, secure job. Go out and be a doctor, be an accountant, or be a lawyer.
“Along the way, people are always going to have opinions on what you should and shouldn’t do” – Evan Carmichael
Go out and do this safe thing. Or, do what I did, right? I went and I did this and I had success, so you should follow in my footsteps, because that’s what success looks like. And the way to break through is understanding that your version of success does not look like theirs. And what really helps is to think about, these people that are giving me advice, my parents, the people around me, the haters, these people that are throwing opinions on me, who are telling me all these things that I should be doing that I’m not, have they done what you want to do? Have they gone where you want to go? And if the answer is no, then who are they to give you advice?
How can they tell you what to do if they’ve never done what you want to do? If anything, you want to take the opposite of their advice. I don’t want your life, and so I’m going to go this way and do the opposite of what you’re telling me. Now, you don’t have to be mean and rude and in their face about it, especially if it’s coming from a place of love from them. But in your head, that’s what you’re thinking. These people have not done what I’m trying to do. They don’t know how to give me the advice to help me get there. I need to find different mentors, different guides, a different path, that is different from what they’re telling me. And if you shrink down and you don’t accept that and you say, “You know what, you guys are right,” because you’re afraid to stand up to them, then you’re never ever ever ever going to reach your potential, never.
“When you have an idea, you start, you go for it, you push it forward.” – Evan Carmichael
You’re never going to be fully happy. You’re always going to wonder what if. You’re always going to think that you could be doing more. And the longer you stay on that path, the more boxed in and boxed in and boxed in you’re going to get. And you’ve built a life for yourself where it’s okay to shrink down. Where it’s okay to play the smaller game and just live inside this box. Where every time you get challenged by anybody, you’ve conditioned yourself to shrink down and just accept that that’s the way life is. And you’re now going to teach this to others. You’re going to teach this to your friends. You’re going to teach this to your kids.
You’re going to teach playing small and limited thinking onto the next generation, to your kids. And I want that cycle of mediocrity to stop with you. I want you to practice being bold. I want you to practice listening to yourself, understanding what you’re all about and what your dreams are. When you have an idea, you start, you go for it, you push it forward. I want you to be a source of inspiration for the people around you. Where you don’t need to yell at them and show them off and tell them how they’re wrong. You’re just going to go out and do your thing. And you may fail in the early days, but if you stick out and you persevere, you’re going to have success. And that will be an inspiration to the people around you, saying, “Look what he’s doing.” “Look what she’s doing, huh. “I can do something, too.” That’s what I want for you. And I hope you want it for yourself, too. Believe.
So the question of the day today is, I’m curious, what was the hardest part about living your own dreams?
What was the hardest part? Leave it in the comments below. I’m going to join in the discussion. I also want to give a quick shoutout to Reynaldo Espinoza from selfbuiltempire.com. Thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book Your One Word, it really, really, really means a lot to me.
So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself. And whatever your one word is, much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of an espresso.
♫ I wake up every morning ♫ Espresso keep me going
Evan: Hey Believe Nation, we’re also look at doing a Top 10 on PewDiePie, and here is a sneak peek at some of the clips we’re thinking about using. I hope you enjoy the bonus.
See how many spoons you can balance on your face. What’s the point of this? My job is so easy, I can literally do what I feel like. It’s kind of amazing, just the fact that I can play video games for a living. And when I realized that for the first time, like I was almost getting teary-eyed. Like it was my dream has come true. ♫ All this time I’ve been finding myself ♫ And I didn’t know I was lost I’d be happy not to be number one. I’m just a nerd who plays video games. I didn’t seek the spotlight.
“I think it’s always better to try than not try, no matter what” – Felix Arvid Ulf Kjellberg (Pewdiepie)
Your parents will tell you you can be whatever you want to be in life, which is true. But what a lot of times they don’t tell you is that you have to work really hard to get there. And another thing, maybe more importantly, is that you have to take risks. You have to venture into the unknown, and you might not know what’s going to happen, and that’s scary. But I think it’s always better to try than not try, no matter what. Except meth, not even once.