Good morning believe nation!
Are you having a bad day? Hopefully this video will help.
Clip number one is my personal favorite And at the end of the video I share my thoughts as well. And as always, as you guys are watching, if you hear something that really resonates with you, please leave it in the comments below, put quotes around it so other people can be inspired as well. Enjoy.
Have you ever got in the middle of your day and things just fell apart and you were just like I need a restart? You just wanted to start the whole day over. You were thinking things were kind of going good and now I got derailed. I got distracted, I stopped doing what I was supposed to be doing.
“People need to become more resilient.” – Brendon Burchard
I had a bad interaction with somebody or a conflict and now I feel bad about myself or about the day and you just overall were frustrated with where you were at and you were struggling to restart.
A lot of people don’t have the resiliency to restart in the middle of the day and so they lose those last couple of hours or the rest of the entire day to a bad mood, to bad energy, to bad productivity to being ineffective and because of that it’s costing us great amounts of progress in our own personal lives and frankly as a country, a nation an economy. We struggle with it a lot. People need to become more resilient. So what can you do?
We all want to be able to change the way we feel. That’s what I spend my life showing people how to do and what most people don’t know is the emotion is created by motion.
The way you move determines the way you feel. You have 80 different muscles in your face, 80. For most people this is the largest area of unemployment in the country. They use the face the same way. They feel the same emotions over and over and over again. So what I was saying is I have this deal with myself called priming.
“The way you move determines the way you feel.” – Tony Robins
Every day I say, look, you got to have 10 minutes for yourself. If you don’t have 10 minutes, you don’t have a life and I’m not going to hope I feel good. I just got back 6 countries in 12 days. I was in India two days ago.
I woke up here feeling like somebody ran me over with a truck.
But you got yourself psyched up and
But the way I did it is I do this process. It’s 10 minutes, I put some music on and I do this massive change in my breathing so it radically changes the way I feel and then I do this three-step process. First I do three minutes of gratitude. I think of three things I’m really grateful for.
I don’t think of it over there, I feel it. And the reason is when you’re grateful, you can’t be worried, you can’t be fearful. When you’re grateful, you can’t be angry and anger and fear are what screw people up the most. In their relationships, in their life and their business.
So I wire myself. I was saying to you that most people want to be happy, but their habit is to be worried or pissed off or frustrated or stressed and so they’ve got a highway of stress and they’ve got a dirt road to happiness. So I wire myself.
“We think we’re just feeling what we’re feeling, but our environment, if we don’t take control of our environment, it takes control of us.” – Tony Robins
I’ve got a highway to gratitude, which changes all your emotions and then I do a three-minute process kind of a prayer for my family and friends and then I do a three-minute process of the things I want to accomplish. I see it as done and I feel it. I’m done in 10 minutes. Sometimes I go 20, but my deal is 10, so there’s no excuse not to do it.
You know what I think that’s a great way to kind of set the tone for the day.
It does. It changes, listen we’ve all had times that you snapped at somebody and you felt bad because it wasn’t them, it was the state you’re in, right? Well, there’s no excuse for that. If you prime yourself, you set yourself up. They’ve done studies where they go to people and they have a man walk up to you and say could you hold this for me and hands you a cup of coffee, it’s an actor, and they take it, he takes something out of his pocket, then he takes it back and says thank you.
A hundred people they do it with ice coffee, a hundred people they do it with hot coffee. 45 minutes later, another actor comes by and says listen, we’re doing this little test. For $5, would you read this three paragraphs and answer three questions? Most people say yes. It’s a little story.
The questions are about the character, what’s the character like? 80% of the people that got iced coffee say the person is cold and mean. 81% of the people that got hot coffee say the person is warm and gentle or nice. That’s how much we can be primed by our environment. We think we’re just feeling what we’re feeling, but our environment, if we don’t take control of our environment, it takes control of us.
Put Things In Perspective
There’s a ton of bad days being an entrepreneur, not to mention 98% of entrepreneur ventures are going to fail. So there’s going to be a really bad day in your future. You know, hopefully not for you or any of you. For me, I don’t, I think it’s a very personal question.
I think it’s how you’re wired. I’m so all in entrepreneur, I prefer the pain. I think one of the reasons I love the jet so much is because they bring me so much pain. I love the climb. To me the setback is exciting. I love when something goes wrong. It’s where I shine the most, but that’s not for everybody, right?
It can be very difficult and when you start affecting your life and your loved ones and all the other things, it can get real nasty. To me, the way I handle things, even the few rare days when I really struggle, I take a real step back and make pretend that somebody called me and told me that my mother and daughter were killed. And I know that’s very dark and I apologize, but it’s really what I do.
” I love when something goes wrong. It’s where I shine the most, but that’s not for everybody” – Gary Vaynerchuck
I literally am able to at my deepest most struggling moment within business take a step back and remind myself that I can make a drillion dollars tomorrow on Bit Coin and if something bad happened to the people I love the most, that it would mean nothing and it very consistently rewires me very quickly.
I just put business in perspective. At the end of the day, you know, it’s money. For me it’s not really money. It’s my legacy, so I get hurt by it a little bit more, but, yeah, I put it in perspective. It’s money and you know what? Up until I had a daughter, even while I was married, up until when I had Misha four years ago, I secretly wanted to lose all my money. I had this weird, twisted, dark fantasy of losing everything just to rise again like a phoenix and remind.
WTOH. What’s the opportunity here? So you’re having a bad day, maybe you had a fight with someone. Maybe you lost a big sale. Maybe someone cut you off in traffic and then you didn’t get your favorite lunch and then you missed getting into Soul Cycle class and then you had a difficulty on the way home.
So let’s say that’s happening. You simply run the WTOH question, which will allow you to pivot. WTOH, what’s the opportunity here? See there’s great power in a question and it allows your brain to hunt for something good. How do you pivot? You ask yourself what’s the opportunity here.
You have a fight with someone, let’s say one of your family members. Say what’s the opportunity here. Well, your brain then starts to look for the opportunity, which is I can learn how to communicate better or this is an opportunity for me to show forgiveness and grow in my personal bravery. This is an opportunity for me to understand my family member better. It’s a great and powerful question.
If I need to reset, I realize the day’s all gone to crap, I will immediately stop everything. If the day’s gone to crap, don’t stay in your inbox, don’t keep doing the same thing you’re doing. Take a step away from it. Literally go outside, take a walk. My favorite resets, I have two of them.
One, I go outside, I take my phone, I put on my favorite playlist of music and I don’t think about anything at all. I just listen to music and I walk for 20 minutes. When I come back to my desk or I come back to the house or I come back to wherever I was, I sit down, I bust out my journal and I write three things. Number one, I start writing everything I’m grateful for because I’m trying to take my mind off of the day.
So that’s why I listen to the music with no thoughts, just listen to the lyrics of the music, breathing as I’m walking. Sit down, what am I grateful for? Second, what three things must be accomplished today? Write those down. Third, what’s my reward if I accomplish those three things? And for me, my reward is social, so I say if I finish these three, soon as I finish these three things, I get to call my best friend from school who I haven’t seen in years. If I finish these three things, I get to call my lady.
“If I need to reset, I realize the day’s all gone to crap, I will immediately stop everything.” – Brendon Burchard
If I finish these three things, I get to get up, I get to go have some green tea and some chocolate, whatever it is for you. You need to have that reward. I write those down and it re-engages you with the blessings of life, re-engages what I need to accomplish and re-engages me with a simple reward. That’s my first favorite way to reset. My second favorite way to reset is meditation.
To just stop everything, close my eyes, do the release meditation technique. If you haven’t learned that before, you can learn that from me on YouTube. Just type in my name and then release meditation technique and I do that for 20 minutes. When I open up my eyes, I stand, I stretch, I get some water, I come back and again I write those three things. One I’m grateful for, what three things must be accomplished today and ultimately what’s my reward for doing this? That’s a great way to reset.
I would say another one is to get outside of your head, to stop thinking it all has to be you accomplishing everything for you and another great reset is to ask this simple question. What could I do right now to give a surprise, some attention or some gratitude and appreciation to somebody around me? Could I go thank the receptionist, someone I haven’t talked to in a while.
Can I go pull a prank on a friend over here? Can I call somebody and prank them and make a joke with them? Can I call somebody randomly and say thank you. Can I sit down and just write a random thank you email to somebody I haven’t talked to in a while. Can I shoot and iPhone video sending love to family or a friend? Get outside of myself and in service or surprise to somebody else helps me reboot the day because it gives me a social enthusiasm to engage with with the day.
Build Your Chracter
As I was growing up as a child, I would be quite envious of everybody else around me who had arms and legs, including my brother and sister at times. I was born without limbs for no medical reason. There are times in life where things happen and don’t make sense and I was just sitting on a plane seat next to this guy who was going to visit his mum and his stepfather just died on Friday, they’re burying him tomorrow or the day after and, you know, I was talking with him a little bit and, you know, there are just some things that we won’t understand in this life.
Though there are some times when you wish that you could rewind and do things all over again. There are times where you just wish you could forget memories and you try to drown those memories in alcohol or different pleasures and maybe get distracted by the goals and ambitions of your life and try to put the past behind and move forward. We’re all human beings.
Please don’t get me wrong. I don’t wake up every morning with a smile on my face like, hi everybody. I have ups and downs. You see my foot? Ups and downs. Ups and downs. The first thing I want you to take away from today is this. You will have good days and you’ll have bad days, but you will always learn something more or something new and you will learn more overall on bad days than good days.
You will learn more about yourself, you’ll learn more about relationships, you’ll learn about life and principles and it’ll build your character. If you’re a person who wants to let’s say improve on your character of patience, let’s say, don’t complain when you’re waiting in a line.
You ain’t going to grow in patience until you’re put in a place to wait. It’s like you go into a gym and, you know, you walking through the front doors and you know you tell your wife or your husband I’m going to the gym. You go into the gym and you come in three feet and you do a u-turn and you ride out, I went to the gym. Ain’t getting nothing. You got to go in and what are you going to do?
You’re going to pick up the weights and you exercise the muscles that you want to build. I stand before you without arms and legs, but a very strong man because of the bad days in my life. You know how it is. If you didn’t go what you’ve gone through, you wouldn’t be who you are today.
“You will have good days and you’ll have bad days, but you will always learn something more or something new and you will learn more overall on bad days than good days.” – Nick Vujicic
And I’m not belittling your pain and don’t worry, I’ve seen pain in my life, and I’ve seen it not only in my live, but people’s lives and people say well at least I have no arms and legs and then what am I’m supposed to say? At least I’m not a African orphan who’s dying at four years old and I met that person.
What about the 10-year-old girl that was bought for 700 US dollars in Mamba and kidnapped as a sex slave, to have 350 clients before the age of 13, pregnant at 12, put the baby under the bed while she works on top abandoned by her family. After she pays her debt of 700 US dollars after three years with her child she leaves on the streets of Mamba hoping for a new life. No family, no job, no food.
Her baby needs food. She gets raped, beaten up on the street. She comes back to the only way that she knows how to make money. She goes back to the brothels. She gets pregnant at 15 the second time and then that child dies and then at 20 years old she comes up to me, yes, I have met this woman.
She comes up crying and she says “Nick, I just found I’ve got HIV AIDS.” And I got fired from being a prostitute. What do you say to that? You may have arms and legs, but unless you know three things, number one, who are you and what your value is, number two, what is your purpose here in life and number three, what is your destiny when you’re done here. If you don’t know the answers of any of those three questions, you’re more disabled than I.
Evan: So my quick thoughts are I think it’s generally good to try to avoid having bad days or bad moments, especially when they are happening frequently. I think anybody can have a bad day. And I think in general, you can use some of the strategies in this video to help you take those bad days and just chunk those into bad moments, so it doesn’t bleed into the entire day or the next day, but one thing that I try to pay particular attention to is if I’m feeling like this for multiple days in a row.
“I think it takes a lot of courage to start off on some path that you thought you would enjoy and then as you get into it” – Evan Carmichael
If that’s happening consistently, then I know something needs to change. If I’m getting up and I’m looking in the mirror and I’m not happy for multiple days in a row, or I’m looking at my schedule of all the things I need to do and I’m not excited by it and I’m not motivated by it, then I know that’s something that needs to change. And that’s not to say that every moment is amazing and I look forward to every single thing that I’m ever going to do on my life.
There’s a lot of crap that comes with running a business, a lot of things that are not so good, a lot of things that can get you down, but on the surface, like on the whole, you should feel like the work you’re doing is meaningful, it matters, you’re growing, you’re having a contribution and you’re excited about the work that you’re doing, because if you’re not, you’re not going to continue.
It’s just going to fade away. Your business won’t have success if you don’t have the passion for it. So one, I think it’s okay. I think it’s okay to switch gears. I think it takes actually a lot of courage to switch gears.
I think it takes a lot of courage to start off on some path that you thought you would enjoy and then as you get into it, you realize, huh, this isn’t actually for me, but I’m going to keep on this path that is not for me because I already invested all of this time and money and effort into it, or I’ve already told my friends and family that I’m going to do this and it would look really bad if I stopped now.
Those are the wrong reasons to do it. Just because you put a ton of energy into something, that doesn’t mean you should keep doing it. Just because you’re worried about looking bad in front of somebody, it doesn’t mean you should keep doing it. Take that thing that you no longer like and if you can sell it, if you can get rid of it, if you can give it to somebody else, great and if not, dump it and move on to something else. I have left more projects, I’ve left more YouTube series than a lot of people even ever dare to create. And it’s part of the process. As you grow, as you evolve, as you become a higher version of yourself, as other interests come in, your business and the work that you do can stay stagnant.
“Your business won’t have success if you don’t have the passion for it.” – Evan Carmichael
You need to change the work that you do as you grow and evolve as a human being and so I find it super valuable and super helpful that if I’m ever feeling down for any consistent period of time, to look at the work that I’m doing and evaluate it and say is that still worth actually doing? Is that still worth my time.
If I’m not motivated to go out and do something and that’s consistent, then I need to find a way to get rid of it and move on and go do something else that does ignite me, that does get me excited, because that is where the magic is going to happen, for me and for you. The more you are feeling in the zone, in the moment, amazed at the work that you’re doing, creative, impactful, the more you’re there, that is where the magic is going to happen for your business, for your life, so try to stay there as much as possible and eliminate the things that are causing these bad things for you.
Evan: So thank you guys so much for watching this edition of Believe Life. I made it because Prya asked me too, so if there’s a topic you’d like me to cover in the next edition of Believe Life, leave your requests in the comment below and we’ll see what we can do.
I’m also curious, what do you guys do when you have a bad day?
What’s your solution to get out of it?
What are some of the strategies and tactics that you use to bring yourself back up, whether that’s a mindset thing, a scheduling thing.
What do you do to get out of a bad day?
Leave it in the comments below. I’m curious and I think you’ll also be able to help others going through similar problems. Finally, I want to give a quick shout out to Atul Pathria. Atul, thank you so much for creating that artwork about my book, Your One Word. I really appreciate the love, time and energy that went into and just wanted to say thank you.
So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love, I’ll see you soon.