Good morning Believe Nation. Today’s message is Impose Your Will. Over to you, Inky Johnson.
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You know why people quit? People don’t have pride in what they do. You know why people stop? They’re selfish and it’s just about them. When you have a bigger purpose to why you’re doin’ what you’re doin’, and you want to honor the sacrifices that others have made for you, it’s nothin’ for you to keep goin’ when you hit adversity.
If every decision and choice you make is just about you, at certain point you’re going to hit somethin’ that’s a lot tougher than you, and it’s going to make you quit because you don’t have a drivin’ force for why you do what you do. But when I got up to the University of Tennessee, it was simple. It was simple for me to give everything I had.
My freshman year, I played special teams. My sophomore season I broke the star lineup, had a really strong sophomore season. The summer headin’ into my junior year, I still remember the day while I was sittin’ in that film room, I was watchin’ film on the California Bears.
“When you have a bigger purpose to why you’re doin’ what you’re doin’, and you want to honor the sacrifices that others have made for you, it’s nothin’ for you to keep goin’ when you hit adversity.” – Inky Johnson
My Defensive Backs Coach, Larry Slade, came in the room he said, “Inky, I got some good news for you.” I dropped the clicker, I said, “What is it?” He said, “Man, your projected top 30 draft pick, son.” He said, “All you have to do is play “the next 10 football games. “You’re an automatic multimillionaire.” I went out of that room.
I called my mother and my grandmother on a three way. I said, “After this season, there’ll be no more struggle.” I said, “We will never miss another meal.” I said, “We will never experience another Christmas “where we have to stand on the side of the curb “and just be grateful.” Now, I hung it up. First football game, I went out and played great. Got an interception. Shut Cal down. Second game, we kind of get scared for us.
Got late in the game, fourth quarter. Guy dropped back, he threw the ball to a receiver comin’ out of my side line. Me and the guy, we went head on. Soon as I hit the guy, I felt as if every breath in my body left. Body went completely limp. Fell to the ground and I blacked out. Never happened to me before. When my eyes opened, I’ll never forget. My team mates ran over, they said, “Ink, get up, let’s go.” I said, “I can’t.” I said, “I can’t move.”
They said, “What do you mean you can’t move? “You’re our lock down quarter, man, we need you. “Let’s go.” I said, “I know man, but this time I can’t move.” I flipped my head up to the sky and said, “God,” I said, “Surely nothin’ has happened in this moment “that can alter my life.”
They got me over to the hospital, they took me back, they ran CAT scans, they brought me back into my room and all in a 15 second time frame, the doctor came runnin’ from the opposite side. He said, “Hey, get in here, we got to rush this guy “back to emergency surgery.
“He’s about to die.” I said, “What?” He said, “Son, you have busted a subclavian artery “in your chest. “You’re bleedin’ internally. “We have to rush you back, take the main vein “out of your left leg, plug it into your chest “in order to save your life.” When I opened my eyes from recovery, the same doctor was over me. He said, “Son, have some good news “and some bad news for ya.” I said, “You got some bad news for me after tellin’ me “I’m about to die? “I’m still alive.
“How bad can it get? “I’m still here.” (audience giggles) He said, “The good news is we saved your life.” I said, “Thank you, sir.” He said, “The bad news is, Ink, you have nerve damage “in your right shoulder.” I said, “Okay, cool.” He said, “But son, it’s a strong possibility “that you probably can never play the game of football “again in your life.”
“The problem with the world today, people get involved with things, and if they don’t like a certain person, if they don’t like the process, if it’s not what they thought it was, they quit.” – Inky Johnson
I said, “No way.” I said, “No disrespect to you, doc, but I’ve been workin’ “for this ever since I was seven years old.” I said, “No disrespect to you, doc, “but you wasn’t in the park with me and my mother. “And I was seven years old and she was sittin’ in that “Buick re-got when she got done working at Wendy’s. “No disrespect to you, doc, but you didn’t come up “in that two bedroom home, 14 people, “sleepin’ on the floor.
“No disrespect to you, doc, but you didn’t miss “those meals and stay focused and never made an excuse.” I never cheated. I never cheated. Like my conscience, still until this day, won’t let me, like I can’t cheat. I can’t look myself in the mirror and say, “Ink, you did “a good job” knowin’ that I cheated. I can’t cheat.
One of the greatest pieces of advice that my mother gave me was this. “Son, whatever you start, you make sure you finish it.” And the problem with the world today, people get involved with things, and if they don’t like a certain person, if they don’t like the process, if it’s not what they thought it was, they quit.
And what they don’t understand about quittin’, quittin’ becomes a habit that doesn’t just affect you. Later on in life, when you get a wife and you get some kids, when you get a family, it’s going to come back to haunt you. And then will one day affect them. That is why I tell you the process is more important than the product.
It’s not even about the outcome for me. It’s about can you take pride in what you do as an individual? And every night, when you look in the mirror, knowin’ that you gave everything that you had to it. And we have to get to the point where we’re willing to impose our will on certain things. Impose your will on it.
My life totally changed, and they gave me an opportunity to stop. And most people, when you give them an opportunity to stop while they’re chasin’ somethin’, they take advantage of it because they feel like, “Man, why did this have to “happen to me?” I felt as if, “Why not me?” This is the perfect opportunity to use this to be a blessing to somebody else.
“I tell you the process is more important than the product.” – Inky Johnson
And you know what? It’s not even about me to be truthful. It’s not even about me. Now it’s about repayin’ the people that invested in me and saw somethin’ in me when I couldn’t see it in myself. At a certain point in life, it just can’t be about you. And the moment that we understand that, and every day we wake up, we understand that life is a blessin’ and life is a gift. And if you were to check out today, how would you want to be remembered? It’s bigger than you.
Evan: So first off, this is an amazingly powerful clip. I had never heard of Inky before doing the research for this video. So, whoever of you guys in Believe Nation suggested that we do him, I am grateful. Thank you so much. I’m expecting a power house of a top 10 coming on Inky.
My quick thoughts on this is, I’m a big believer in the Army of One. And that’s where I will will something into existence. And so, when I’m starting off a new project that I’m passionate about, that I want to see come to life, that I have this idea that maybe other people think is crazy. I’m going to will it into existence.
“I’m a big believer in the Army of One” – Evan Carmichael
I am going to make it happen. And at the start, I’ll involve people and say, “Hey, do you want to join me? “What do you think? “Do you want to be a part of this?” Try to build up a team and if they come on board, amazingly, we’ll build this thing together, and if they don’t, if they don’t like it, they don’t see how they can fit, they don’t want to help out, I will be an Army of One, and will it into existence. I will make it happen.
And as we get a little more success, then I can afford to hire somebody to come on and help me if you won’t want to join me and partner up at the beginning. That’s okay. You saying no, you tellin’ me how stupid somethin’ is, you tellin’ me how it’s not going to work, does not impact my willingness to go and do it. And I think that’s where most people fall short. You are living your life too much from the expectations and beliefs of other people. Whether that’s your family, your friends, people around you, your parents, whoever. Doctors.
You’re livin’ your life according to the opinions and beliefs of other people. Instead of setting the standard so high for yourself, that it doesn’t matter what the people underneath think. If you set your standards for up here, and everybody else expects you to play here, then even when you fall short, you’re harder on yourself than anybody else can be on you.
You know, if I’m late for a meeting, that might upset somebody, you know, that person that that I’m meeting. I’m way harder on myself than they are ever going to be, ’cause I hate being late for a meeting. There’s a new potential instructor I’m looking at for my dance studio. And, she really badly wants to become an instructor.
“If you set your standards for up here, and everybody else expects you to play here, then even when you fall short, you’re harder on yourself than anybody else can be on you.” – Evan Carmichael
And she’s on her path and she’s learning and growing, and developing the skills to be able to do that. And she goes home and she tells her family “Hey I want to be an instructor here. “I think I can make an impact.” And her sister, the first thing that she tells her, her sister tells her that she can’t do it. Her sister tells her that she’s not good enough, that who is she that she thinks she can be an instructor and teach dance. And for a lot of people, that’s the end, right. For a lot of people, they give up. They quit. They’re done.
Because your sister thinks you can’t do it, therefore you think you can’t do it and so you stop. And in life, along the path to any goal that you’re trying to accomplish, you’re going to hit tons of road blocks. Tons of road blocks. The challenge is the process of overcoming those. And if you don’t believe in what you’ve got, you’re always going to be subject to the opinions of other people. If you quit on your dance dream because your sister says you’re not good enough, then you’re always just livin’ up to your sister’s expectations for what you can do.
“In life, along the path to any goal that you’re trying to accomplish, you’re going to hit tons of road blocks. Tons of road blocks.” – Evan Carmichael
As opposed to what you want to do. And it sucks not to get your sister’s support, or your parents’ support, or your best friend’s support, but it doesn’t matter. You don’t need their support to be you. You don’t need their support to be the greatest version of yourself. You don’t need their support to go and build your dreams.
Their opinion of you does not impact your self confidence. Does not have an impact on your self worth. If you guys love my videos, that’s amazing. If you guys hate my videos, I don’t care. Can I take feedback on how to make them better? 100%. But if you don’t like me, the way I talk, the way I look, the what I’m doing, doesn’t matter to me. If you’re constantly living your life by the opinions of other people, you’re never going to go out and live your dreams. And so it’s great to involve people, it’s great to get expert opinions, it’s great to tell friends and family.
“This is your dream. And you can’t blame anybody else for you not chasing your dream. If you don’t go out and hit it, it’s not your sister’s fault. It’s not your mom’s fault. It’s not your best friend’s fault. It’s your fault. So, own it. ” – Evan Carmichael
And if they’re supportive and understanding, they can give you resources, and knowledge, and mentorship, and advice, and guidance, amazing. And if they can’t, if they’re either apathetic and they don’t care about it, or worse, they’re negative and just trash your idea, doesn’t matter. You’re going to will it into existance.
You’re going to be an Army of One. Because this is your dream. And you can’t blame anybody else for you not chasing your dream. If you don’t go out and hit it, it’s not your sister’s fault. It’s not your mom’s fault. It’s not your best friend’s fault. It’s your fault. So, own it. Be an Army of One and will it into existence.
So the question of the day today is I’m curious, what have you had to will into existence? Something that everybody was told you was crazy, would never work, you have no shot, and you just made it happen. I want to hear your story. Share it, leave it down in the comments below. I also want to give a quick shout out to Kamiana Jardine. Thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, You’re One Word. I really, really, really, really appreciate it. Thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you, I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is. Much love, and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of Entspresso. ♫ I wake up every mornin’ ♫ Espresso’ll keep me goin’ ♫