And you may not know it, but some of the people that are giving you the most trouble may be helping you more than anybody.
You have no idea how frighteningly average and normal I am,
If you have a habit of just talking about your problems all the time, it’s time to make a new habit.
Bunch of people old before their times because they look like, they’re 40 and look like they’re 90 because they’ve worried themselves to death.
Evan: She’s a charismatic Christian speaker, author, and pastor, she speaks humorously with her audience, sharing her personal stories and often taking small jabs at stereotypical church behavior.
Time magazine also named her one of the 25 most influential evangelicals in America.
She’s Joyce Meyer, and here’s my take on her top 10 rules for success.
Rule number four is my personal favorite, and I’d love to know which ones you guys like the best. Also, as Joyce is talking, if she says something that really resonates with you, please leave it in the comments below and put quotes around it so other people can be inspired as well and also when you write it down, it helps lock it in for yourself, enjoy.
Rule #1: Use Your Enemies
I tell a story about a poor pitiful donkey that got thrown down into a well, he fell into a well, and the farmer heard this donkey crying in the well and he was trying to debate on whether or not to try to get him out or not, the well was deep and it was going to be a lot of hard work and the donkey was old anyway and so maybe we’ll just bury him and let it go, so he went and got a bunch of friends and said, let’s just bury him, help me shovel some dirt in there, so he’ll shut up that crying, he’s an old donkey and not worth too much anyway, you know, there may be a lot of people that just think you’re just an old donkey and not worth too much anyway, maybe feel like you’re in a pit right now and somebody’s shoveling dirt on you.
“You may not know it but some of the people that are giving you the most trouble may be helping you more than anybody” – Joyce Meyer
But what are you going to do about it? Well, the donkey’s down there and he’s crying out pitifully.And here comes a shovelful of dirt and another shovelful and a shovelful of dirt, and it would hit him on the back, and he’d go …
Get on top of it, here comes some more dirt and some more dirt and some more dirt. He’d shake it off his back, he’d wiggle just a little. He couldn’t get out of the pit, but he could wiggle and he’d get up on top of that dirt and he was getting closer and closer to the top and pretty soon he just walked right out of that pit.
All those people shoveling dirt on him helped him get out of the pit. Are you out there tonight? All those people shoveling dirt on him actually helped him, and you may not know it but some of the people that are giving you the most trouble may be helping you more than anybody, are you living an unsustainable life?
Rule #2:Have Boundaries
Do you find yourself saying, I can’t do this much longer? I just can’t keep this up forever. This is just too much for me, or are other people telling you you can’t keep going on like this forever? How many of you got some people in your life that love you telling you you can’t keep this up, you can’t keep doing this, you’re going to have to slow down, you’re going to have to lay something down, you’re going to have to give something up?
” Don’t let people take advantage of you, have some boundaries and some borders” – Joyce Meyer
Well Moses had the same thing, he was overloaded but to be honest I don’t know that he really knew it and you know, I’m such a hard worker that sometimes I can not even realize that I’m doing too much, sometimes I don’t even know when I’m being excessive and somebody has to come along and say, wait a minute, you’re not going to do that, you just got back from a conference, you’re going to rest, so sometimes it pays to listen to other people.
Exodus 18:14. “When Moses’ father in law saw what he was doing “for the people, he said, what is this that you do “for the people, why do you sit alone “and the people stand around you from morning till evening? Now listen, Mom, why do you wait on your children hand and foot while they sit around and watch you and do nothing but play on their iPads from morning till evening? (audience cheers) Well … (laughs) Let me tell you something, that kid of yours can put cereal in a bowl. (audience cheers)
They might make a little mess, but it won’t be the end of the world. If you’re enjoying yourself sitting in your recliner and you’re relaxing, let ’em get their own snack. Oh, boy, come on, I don’t want to work this hard on Friday night, why do you sit alone while everybody stands around you, now you don’t all have that problem but I have a daughter that does that.
You can just get into habits and the way you start with people is what they’re going to expect later on, so then if you’ve already got a bunch of bad habits in your house, then it’s going to really kind of shock everybody when you kind of bring down the gauntlet and say I’m not going to live like this anymore, and they’re going to think you’re being mean and think you’re being bad and so there’ll be a little time of adjustment and it doesn’t mean you don’t do anything for anybody but don’t let people take advantage of you, have some boundaries and some borders.
Rule #3:Stop,And Have Some Fun
Some of you need a laugh right now, so I’m going to stop right in the middle of this preaching and tell you a joke. Well, honey, I’ve never been in a church like this, well, two old people were laying in bed side by side. I’m talking really old, like, wrinkled up old. And she said, honey, why don’t you ever hold my hand like you used to at night?
“It’s okay to just stop right in the middle of some work and just have a little bit of fun, matter of fact, you could laugh at yourself and lighten up your life a whole lot.” – Joyce Meyer
So his little old wrinkled hand came across the bed and he took her little old wrinkled hand, she said, honey, why don’t you ever hold me in your arms like you used to at night? So he sighed and it took him a little while but he got over to her side of the bed, got her in his arms and she rested a little bit and then she said, honey, why don’t you ever nibble on my ear like you used to at night? And all of a sudden he jumped up and started across the floor, and she said, well, where are you going, and he said, well, I got to get my teeth.
Now see, you’re thinking, well, what does that have to do with anything, nothing, it has nothing to do with anything and that’s exactly what you need to get through your head that everything doesn’t have to have some big super duper purpose. It’s okay to just stop right in the middle of some work and just have a little bit of fun, matter of fact, you could laugh at yourself and lighten up your life a whole lot.
Look at me and let me tell you something, you can believe what you want to believe. You’re going to believe something, it might as well be something that is going to help you. It’s just as simple, actually, it’s easier to believe you can than to believe you can’t. It’s easier to believe you are than to believe you aren’t, now, you know, based on what you guys tell me, you love me, you like me, you know, you tell me, I think you’re this, I think you’re that, blah blah blah, you’ve changed my life, you have no idea how frighteningly average and normal I am.
“You can get over a broken past if you decide to believe that there’s nothing in your past that can keep you from having a great future.” – Joyce Meyer
I mean, it’s like sometimes I’m walking around and somebody’ll run up to me and say You’re Joyce Meyer, and I’m, like, oh, yeah, oh yeah, I’m Joyce Meyer. But see, actually the truth is I’m just like you and you’re just like me, we’re all just a big mess.
With Jesus living on the inside, saying you got what it takes, if there is any difference in me and you and there doesn’t have to be, but if there is any, it’s only because I’ve decided to believe it and you haven’t quite decided that yet. You can get over a broken past if you decide to believe that there’s nothing in your past that can keep you from having a great future.
Rule #5:Take Charge Of Your Life
First Peter 5:8 says be well balanced, are you living a balanced life? How many of you don’t get enough sleep, no matter where I go, it’s the same thing, 80% of the people don’t get enough sleep, well, what’s going to fix it, start sleeping.
That’s simple, get more sleep. Well, I can’t sleep, I have trouble sleeping, well, don’t spend all day worrying, then maybe you’ll be able to go to sleep at night.
How many of you don’t drink enough water? Well, we can fix that too, drink water. This is not rocket science, I mean, I’m trying to tell you tonight that you can fix your life faster than you think you can fix your life.
Rule #6:Be Couragous
Fear is something that’s not ever going to completely disappear from our lives, the feeling of fear is not ever going to completely disappear, and just because you feel fear that doesn’t mean that you have to be afraid, and I don’t know about you, but that was a great revelation to me many years ago because I kept wanting to not feel afraid and God wanted me to feel the fear and be courageous anyway, courage means to go ahead and take the action that you believe you should take or that you know that God wants you to take while you feel fear.
” Just because you feel fear that doesn’t mean that you have to be afraid” – Joyce Meyer
We let our feelings dictate to us way too much, and so the only acceptable attitude that a Christian can have is simply I will not fear. So let’s all say that, I will not fear. Now, once again, that doesn’t mean that you’ll never feel fear, matter of fact, I can pretty much promise you that you will but it does mean that you can feel the fear, do whatever you believe that you’re supposed to do while you feel afraid, you can learn to do it afraid if that’s the only way that you can do it. Don’t let the feelings of fear keep you trapped any longer, now first of all, let me say this,
Rule #7:Have A Positive Attitude
A positive attitude attracts people, a negative attitude usually doesn’t win you very many friends, now, I don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings, but I just want to throw this out for you to think about, everybody does not want to just hear your problems all the time. Now it’s great to have a good friend that you can share with but you don’t have to share and share and share and share and share.
“A positive attitude attracts people, a negative attitude usually doesn’t win you very many friends” – Joyce Meyer
And share and share, and then when you wear that one out, go find another one and share and share and share. So if you have a habit of just talking about your problems all the time, it’s time to make a new habit, and that is to find something good to talk about and I’ll just throw this out for good measure, too. Your friends don’t want to just hear you talk about yourself all the time.
Rule #8:Stop Complaining
“If you want to stay right where you’re at, just keep complaining about it, and I can pretty much guarantee you that you’ll still be there this time next year.” – Joyce Meyer
And I remember God telling me in the very, very beginning of our ministry, if you can not complain about where you go to meetings, the day will come when you’ll be able to go anywhere you want to and hold a meeting, well, that’s pretty much true today but I had to go through a lot of rough places and difficult places, and I think a lot of people, and I want you to listen to me, a lot of people never get to where they want to be because they’ll never stop complaining about where they’re at, I’ma say it again, a lot of people will never get to where they want to be because they will never stop complaining about where they’re at, the word complain means to remain or to stay overnight, so if you want to stay right where you’re at, just keep complaining about it, and I can pretty much guarantee you that you’ll still be there this time next year.
Rule #9:You Can Have Power
I mean, can we believe tonight that Jesus didn’t die so we could be wimpy and whiny and barely going, I’m just so tired of this, I just don’t know if I can make it or not, Jesus Come on. Bunch of people old before their times because they look, you know, they’re 40 and look like they’re 90 because they worried themselves to death. I mean, come on, you stay full of the Holy Ghost and you’re going to look younger when you’re 80 than you did when you were 40. Let’s look at Acts chapter one verse eight. Look at this, “But you shall receive power.”
I knew that God had power, but I went to church for years and nobody told me I could have any power. So just in case nobody’s ever told you, I want to tell you in this room and all of you watching by television all around the world in these 63 languages this program is translated into, whether you’re in China or Russia or India or Africa, you can have power.
God wants you to have power to live your everyday life, where even when we are loaded down with troubles, we can throw our shoulders back and lift our head up and say I can do whatever I need to do through Christ who strengthens me. I am not without an answer, I am not without a way, because God is living in me in close fellowship and he will show me what to do. If we don’t understand the power of God, no wonder, being a Christian is so boring, there’s nothing you can do.
Rule #10:Start Your Day With Purpose
Let me just tell you that I was so selfish, oh my gosh, I was so selfish, I was always on my mind. You know, if Dave was going to go play golf, the first thing I’d think is, well, what about me? And if Dave was going to watch a football game, well, what about me? The kids’d go outside with Dave to play and I had work to do inside, you know, mind you, I could’ve not worked and went out and enjoyed myself, but no, I wanted to work so I could feel sorry for myself.
And everything was, well, what about me, what about me, when’s somebody going to do something for me and I started early in the morning, before I was even fully awake thinking about myself. Any of you like that? And so many many many years ago I was laying in bed one morning, and I wasn’t even fully awake yet and I was thinking about how I could get Dave to not do what he wanted to do that day and do what I wanted and, you know, how I could maybe get the kids to do the housework so I could just kind of chill and, you know, have fun, and it was like
I was just thinking about myself, just laying there in bed, thinking about myself, and you know, that’s a dangerous way to start your day because however you get started, that’s usually the way things go the rest of the day, and you’re much better off to lay in bed and purposely think, God, what can I do for somebody else today, how can I be a greater blessing to my family, God, how can I be a better wife today?The last time I asked God that, he told me to cook Dave some breakfast, I haven’t asked that in a while. ‘Cause I’m not into too much cooking and poor guy about fainted when I said I’m going to cook your breakfast, so.
“I was just thinking about myself, just laying there in bed, thinking about myself, and you know, that’s a dangerous way to start your day because however you get started, that’s usually the way things go the rest of the day” – Joyce Meyer
You got to be ready when you ask God that kind of stuff but it’s been life changing for me the principles that I’m sharing with you tonight really has been one of the key elements in my life that have gotten me from where I was to where I am, so I’m laying there thinking about myself and I kind of had, like, this little vision and the Holy Ghost began to deal with me in my heart and he said, you know, the enemy comes and starts putting thoughts in your head real early in the morning and it’s like he’s getting you wound up for the day, he said, you remind me of this little robot, the devil comes and he’s, like, what about me, what about me, what about me and what about me?
And then you put your feet on the floor and this is the way you look to me the rest of the day. What about me, what about me, what about me, what about me, beep beep, what about me, what about me, what about me.
Evan: Thank you guys so much for watching, I made this video because Natasha O’Meara asked me to so if there’s a famous entrepreneur that you want me to profile next, leave it in the comments below and I’ll see what I can do.
I’ll also love to know what did Joyce say that had the biggest impact on you, which rule did you love the most and why, leave it in the comments, I’m going to join in the discussion, finally, want to give a quick shoutout to MeGaPuRe, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word, and making that awesome Youtube video on your channel, I really really really appreciate the support and hope you’re enjoying the book.
So thank you guys again for watching, I believe in you, I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is, much love, I’ll see you soon.
Value Your Time
You know, we all have really the same amount of time, each of us gets 24 hours every day, we don’t get any more, we don’t get any less.
Well, why is it that some people can do so much with their time and other people don’t seem to ever accomplish what they set out to accomplish with their time, we hear this comment all the time, or we hear ourselves saying it, I know I say it, where did all the time go, I can’t believe this day has gone, I can’t believe it’s already spring, I can’t believe it’s Christmas, and we hear that all the time, well, where does all the time go?
“Some people don’t enjoy their lives because they feel like they have too much to do all the time” – Joyce Meyer
To be honest, I think we should know where our time goes and one of the things that I’ve formed the habit of doing, I don’t do it every single day, but this really helps me, is people who live busy lives, fast-paced lives, sometimes a whole day can go by in a blur and you know you were busy but you’re not really sure what you did, you did it all so fast that you can’t even hardly remember what you did, and one of the things that I enjoy doing is just laying in bed for a few minutes at night before I drift off to sleep and actually starting with my morning in my thoughts and thinking about everything that I did that day, I got up, made my coffee, went up to my office, had some time with God, looked over my calendar, you know, whatever it was that I did, I like to go through those things because then it actually helps me remember what I’m doing with my life.
I don’t want my life to go by in a blur and I don’t think you do either, I believe that every day that God gives us is a gift and I think we should open that gift fully and completely, enjoy every single moment of it.
Some people don’t enjoy their lives because they feel like they have too much to do all the time, well, then make some changes, don’t let what everybody else wants run your life, take your life back,I think under God’s direction and leadership, we need to take charge of our lives and we need to start putting our time into what we want to put it into instead of just what everybody else wants us to put it into and I don’t mean by that that we don’t do things for people, we all should be busy doing things for other people, we all should serve, we have jobs, we have responsibilities, but don’t just let all your circumstances rule you and everybody else’s decisions about what they want you to do for them rule you, take your life back,
Live the Moment
So I want to share with you a little exercise that I think you can do at any time, I’ve been doing this and I’m finding it very refreshing and that is simply to stop several times a day and just say, Lord, I want to just live this moment that I’m in, you know, so often we don’t, we’re breathing, but we’re not really living the moment that we’re in, we’re in such a frustrated uproar over all the things that are going on in our lives that so much of our day just flies by and at night we don’t even really know what we did but we know it was pretty frustrating and we didn’t enjoy all that much of the day and I think it’s a very good exercise to stop several times a day and just say, now Lord, I’m going to enter into this moment and really just live this moment and to think about and to tell God what you’re thankful for at that particular moment in your life.
And there was a certain man, verse five, who had suffered with a deep seated and a lingering disorder for 38 years, a deep seated and a lingering disorder for 38 years, and it’s this man right here. And Jesus said a most amazing thing to this man, when Jesus noticed him lying there helpless, knowing that he’d already been a long time in that condition, he said to him, do you want to become well, well, what kind of a question is that? Do you want to get well?
Joyce: And then Jesus goes a little deeper, he says, are you really in earnest about getting well? And then the most amazing thing, the invalid answered him and said …
Man: I don’t have anybody to put me in the pool.
Man: Every time I try, somebody gets in front of me and they get their healing and not me.
Joyce: So when Jesus said to him, do you really want to get well, he said, I have nobody to put me into the pool. He was waiting for somebody to do it for him. You say, well, Joyce, give the guy a break, he was crippled, well, I want to tell you something, in 38 years, I could have done a lot of wiggling. I mean, in 38 years, if you only wiggled a little part of an inch every year, I mean, he had 365 days to wiggle. Just a little bit, but the only thing he could say to Jesus, was, there’s nobody to put me in the pool, and when I try to get up, somebody gets ahead of me. Now Jesus didn’t say, oh, you poor man, I cannot believe that you have been laying here 38 years and nobody has put you into the pool, that is really terrible.
Man: I know.
Joyce: It’s really bad, isn’t it?
Joyce: Just really bad?
Man: I’m glad you’re starting to see things my way.
Joyce: He’s getting this, he’s actually got, I think, tears in his eyes, now, you know, Jesus being loving and kind, I would think that he would have just said, that is the most horrible thing I ever heard, I am going to fix your problem tonight, but here is what Jesus said to him, verse eight, Jesus said to him, get up, get up! Get up! And pick up your bed and walk, go home with that mess you’ve made in the last 38 years, get out of here and live your life, get up!
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