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Today, we’re going to talk about how you can keep things in perspective.
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Interviewer: When you have a down time, like something didn’t work the way you want, what do you do to get back on that positiveness?
I talk to the mountain. I have a mountain next to my home that is called Rochers de Naye. It goes up to two, it’s very low. It goes up to 2400 or 2500 meters. Or I talk to the Dents de Midi, which is 4000 meters which is a little bit further away from my home. Which I see every morning.
I see those two mountains. And I say to these two mountains, Mountains, I have a problem, but when I look at you, you are 37 billion old. And I’m a little guy here with a little problem. Can you help me? They will say come on. Look what we have already seen in so many years. Your problem is a nano-problem. Come on, get up.
Interviewer: Just get up, do it.
Man: My question is, I’m an entrepreneur, it’s very great, but not all days are great in a company. So what are your tips and tricks for tough days?
I think there’s massive confusion around entrepreneurship. Entrepreneurship sucks. I mean it’s lonely, it’s high risk. I mean I can’t live without it. But it’s like a bad boyfriend or girlfriend, right. There’s a ton of bad days being an entrepreneur. Not to mention 98% of entrepreneurial ventures are going to fail. So there’s going to be a really bad day in your future. Um, you know, hopefully not for you. Um, or any of you.
“One of the reasons I love the Jets so much is because they bring me so much pain. You know, I love the climb.” – Gary Vaynerchuk
And you know, for me, I think this is a very personal question. I think it’s how you’re wired. I’m so all-in entrepreneur I prefer the pain. I think one of the reasons I love the Jets so much is because they bring me so much pain. You know, I love the climb.
To me, the set back is exciting. I love when something goes wrong. It’s where I shine the most. But that’s not for everybody, right. It can be very difficult. And when you start affecting your life and your loved ones and all other things, it can get real nasty. To me, the way I handle things even on the few rare days when I really struggle, I take a real step back and make pretend that somebody called me and told me that my mother or daughter were killed.
And I know that’s very dark and I apologize, but it’s really what I do. I literally am able to at my deepest, most struggling moment within business take a step back and remind myself that I could make a drillion dollars tomorrow on bitcoin and if something bad happen to the people I love the most that it would mean nothing. And very consistently rewires me very quickly. I just put business in perspective. At the end of the day, it’s money… For me, it’s not really money, it’s my legacy.
So I get hurt by it a little bit more. You know, I put it in perspective, it’s money. And you know what, up until I had a daughter, even while I was married, up until when I had Mischa four years ago, I secretly wanted to lose all my money. I had this weird, twisted, dark fantasy of losing everything just to rise again like a Phoenix and remind you .
Interviewer: Do you feel underrated as a rapper?
Not as of lately. Like which is crazy. For a long time man, for years, I was pissed. So a song on the album called Buried Alive is about that exact thing. You know, it’s about me kind of going well how come he gets the so and so cosigner, how come he gets that or how come they get that.
I can tour the world. I can sell out shows. I got fans, I got this. What the man, like being angry. You know, I had a friend tell me, she basically said those same people who had the cosigns and have the this and have the looks are the same people are going how come I ain’t got fans like this then and how come I can’t tour on my own.
How come I can’t this?
Like what the . So it kind of put things in perspective for me and let me go, okay, I don’t have it yet, but if I keep fighting and I keep working hard and I keep staying on this path, it’s going to happen. You know, and as of late within the last few months man, just from releasing the singles and the music videos and like this solid body of work, I’ve truly began to get what I deserve.
Piers Morgan: 13 years ago, you were completely bust, gone. No money, you had five pounds, you know seven dollars left in your hand. You used it for a taxi back to your parents. And your career in the record business had just come to sudden, shuddering halt. And here you are 13 years later, you’re worth hundreds of millions of dollars, life’s taken a huge turn up, but I get the sense with you that what happen to you 13 years ago still defines you now.
Yeah, I mean it wasn’t the best of times, but then again when I look back on it, it wasn’t the worst of times. You know, because I think particularly here in Hollywood, where most people get it wrong is they’re afraid of losing what they’ve got. They’re just terrified of losing their fame, as you said, power, money.
“I’ve actually faced one of most people’s worst fears and recovered from it, it’s not as bad as you think. You know, I didn’t lose my confidence. My friends were still my friends. I’ve lived with my parents. And I just saw it as a challenge that I’ve got to get myself back on my feet again.” – Simon Cowel
But actually once you’ve lost it, you can always get it back again. I mean it’s not the end of the world. I mean being ill is worse. So because I’ve actually faced one of most people’s worst fears and recovered from it, it’s not as bad as you think. You know, I didn’t lose my confidence. My friends were still my friends. I’ve lived with my parents. And I just saw it as a challenge that I’ve got to get myself back on my feet again.
Piers Morgan: What advice did your parents give you there?
Honest to god, they were just cool about it. You know, they were parents. They just, you know, want to look after me, lived with them for a while. My dad lent me some money to pay the bank. Then, eventually I managed to pay my Dad back. You know, it was what any parent would do.
But like I said, it wasn’t the worst time of my life. Actually, when I look back on it now, I still smile, because I bought this beat up old British sports car, worked 18 hours a day and I was so determined, Piers, just to get it right this time. Cause I knew I’d got it wrong. So now, I find it much easier to deal with things.
Piers Morgan: If that wasn’t the worst time of your life, what was?
Well, when my Dad died was the worst time of my life. As you know, you and I discussed that. That you know, like getting ill, losing a parent, or losing somebody close to you, that’s the worst thing that could ever happen in your life.
In all the things that I worry about now, it’s just trivial. I mean even the whole kind of Idol, X-Factor thing, I laugh about it because it’s such a high class problem. My show is better than your show. It’s like we both got a show. I mean what’s the problem.
Piers Morgan: It’s a bit like Colin Firth and Hugh Grant in the fountain in Bridget Jones fighting.
Exactly, over what? I mean the fact that we’re here and we can do this, it’s fantastic.
Before every one of my debates, I did something to keep things in perspective. To keep myself grounded. At the top of a sheet of paper that was always placed on the podium so we could make notes during the debate, just before the debate kicked off, I wrote at the top one word, dad.
I also drew a small image of the Sun. And throughout the debate when I glanced down at that paper to look at my notes that I had taken, I was reminded of my father’s fearlessness in fighting for what he believed was right. And the Sun that reminded me of course of that familiar scripture, let your light so shine. Win or lose that debate, I hoped that I would never do anything that would dishonor or discredit the things I hold most dear.
“You can welcome perspective through preparatory prayer by considering the blessings of the temple or by simply glancing at your CTR ring. Find ways to keep your life in perspective.” – Mitt Romney
Now during your life, you’re going to encounter circumstances that make you sweat. For many of you, the exams and tests won’t be over when you graduate. And you’re all going to stand at podiums, stand in front of a boss to ask for raise, or work on some critical project in your employment that will make a big difference in your life.
At moments like those, perspective is a very powerful friend. You can welcome perspective through preparatory prayer by considering the blessings of the temple or by simply glancing at your CTR ring. Find ways to keep your life in perspective.
When I was 20, I worked for this, I grew up in Malvern in New York, I worked for the sanitation department. I was a garbage man.
Interviewer: You were a garbage man?
I was a garbage man. I worked the back of the truck, 22 square blocks. That’s hard. Doing movies is, there’s nothing that we do in the movies that’s hard.
Interviewer: I used to deliver for United Parcel Service on a truck. That was hard.
Interviewer: This is a joke.
Mark Wahlberg: People always say why do you spend so much time preparing and everything, cause there’s a bunch of other guys out there that would want my job and I’m not going to do anything to mess it up.
Keep things in perspective. I know we all say it, but really you have to keep reinforcing it. You know all of, everyone in this audience, you know knock on wood, you’re going to do just fine. You’re going to have your four bedroom house.
You’re going to have your car with power windows. You’ll be able to go to Seaworld whenever you want to. But along that way, there are going to be ups and downs. And actually those ups and downs then to happen a lot when you go to transition points. When you’re entering the work force, you’re entering some type of new phase in your life. And you just always have to keep on kind of the long term game, the end game.
And you know, I’ll tell you myself, I’ve gone through fairly dramatic ones right when I was out of the gate. You know when I was, this was 1998, I had just graduated. I was a few months older than most of you all. And some computer magazine had seen something I had done and they wrote this neat profile about me. They called it Future So Bright and I saw that magazine, I was very proud of it.
I was like, oh look, I’m set. I have this career ahead of me. I’m already profiled in a magazine. And frankly, I got kind of into myself. And it’s okay, you can enjoy your successes, but I didn’t have any perspective. And frankly, it was a dangerous thing to have happen. And to really put things in perspective, and I’m happy it did happen, two months later I had kind of switched jobs and you know higher salary. I thought I was on the fast track.
And I had a new boss and on the first three days of work, he spent an hour just completely castigating me. Essentially telling me that I was not worth his time. That I was incompetent as far as he was concerned. And so you can imagine, like a lot of you, successful my whole life, fancy degrees from fancy universities, two months ago I was profiled in a magazine and then now, all of sudden, not even 23 years old, I was back in a hotel room in the middle of nowhere crying.
“Some of you are going to race ahead and be so successful that no of us can imagine it right now. But keep them in perspective. Enjoy the successes, but when your ego starts a little bit large, keep in mind the Sun will supernova one day, the galaxies will collide. We are these small little mammals on this small planet.” – Salman Khan
Not knowing what I was going to do with my life. Convinced that it was all the end of everything, everything was for not. And you know, so you get through them, you wake up in the morning, things look a little bit better. A week later, things look a little better.
You start circulating your resume around. I did find another job two months later. And it’s okay. And the one thing I want to stress, because I’ve gone through ups and downs and you only have one perspective for your own life, but I suspect many of you all are going to have higher ups than I’ve had and many of you all are going to have lower downs.
And I worry about that some times. The ones of you that have higher ups, just keep them in perspective. And it’s inevitable. Some of you are going to race ahead and be so successful that no of us can imagine it right now. But keep them in perspective. Enjoy the successes, but when your ego starts a little bit large, keep in mind the Sun will supernova one day, the galaxies will collide. We are these small little mammals on this small planet.
Or you know, there’s 100, 200 billion stars in the galaxy, in just our galaxy alone. And just have peace in the little success. And when you have a hard time, and you will and some will go through painful periods, you might stumble and start your first few times out the gate.
Also keep in perspective that those stresses, put them in perspective of the universe. They are small. They are going to be things that you’ll be able to laugh about, talk about, attend 15 years from now or hopefully 10-15 days from then.
Keep perspective. And that’s the hardest thing to tell somebody when they are going through a hard time, because you know it’s so easy to say well you don’t understand me or this is so hard or this is the worst time in my life. And some of that might feel true.
And it might be true. It might be one of the most difficult, trying times of your life. And all we can say is keep perspective. We can’t say keep perspective, other than just say there have been good times. Remember them. Don’t cut loose of those good times in your memories, just because now your focus is on the dark times. Remember those times that were better. Remember those times in which you did connect with others, that you did create, that you did take action.
And remember also your strength, because it’s so easy when times are dark to just focus on all the things that you’re doing to screw it up. Or all the things that people are doing to mess with your life, and you forget the incredible power that you have. I mean it is an amazing miracle, if you’re looking for the miracle, you already got it.
“Don’t cut loose of those good times in your memories, just because now your focus is on the dark times. Remember those times that were better. Remember those times in which you did connect with others, that you did create, that you did take action.” – Brendon Burchard
That miracle that you’ve been given the power of, choice and will to direct your own attention each day, to direct your own attitude each day, to direct your own actions each day, to direct your own affections and emotions out into the world.
That you control those things. That you can move those things. That you can shape those things. That’s the miracle. You are the miracle. You’ve been waiting for something to show up and change and I just say you’ve already been given the gift. Now, you have to activate it. So when it’s difficult, keep perspective on the fact that there have been good times, there will be more good times, even if you are struggling personally, you still have that great freedom that has been given to us, and that choice and gift of free will to start directing yourself.
Interviewer: I mean obviously you can’t come on a show like this without the mention of the wanking in the toilet thing.
Which wanking in the toilet thing? Which one?
Interviewer: The arrest.
Oh, of course. That one.
Interviewer: Yeah, the one we’ve heard about.
The time I got caught you mean.
“I have a different perspective on life. I lost a lot of great things, but I still have a lot of incredible things. And the press doesn’t really enter into it.” – George Michael
Interviewer: See, this is the thing. The way you talk about it is your fantastic, sort of unapologetic about it. And you didn’t go into hiding. You didn’t sort of, you know draw the curtains. Was it the next night, you were out in a restaurant in LA having dinner.
Absolutely. Well, I mean what’s to apologize for. You know, I’m a gay man. At the time, I was like 36 years old. If I’m perfectly honest, if I’m perfectly, perfectly honest, outside of my career, I’ve had a terrible run of luck that started about 10 years ago.
I’ve watched a partner die. I’ve watched my mother die. Just after that, I went to see a back surgeon who told me if I didn’t have two vertebrae removed within the next six months to a year that I could be paralyzed. So you just learn to have a different perspective.
I don’t give a toss if people have real problem with me, you know… I have a different perspective on life. I lost a lot of great things, but I still have a lot of incredible things. And the press doesn’t really enter into it.
I want my daughter to grow up thinking that the phrase working woman sounds as odd and superficial and forced as the phrase working man. My husband is my greatest source of motivation.
Jared Kushner: She always has it in her to accomplish whatever she puts her mind to.
He’s the person I lean on the most.
Jared Kushner: I always tell Ivanka don’t worry about the things you can’t control. Just worry about how you react to and deal with the circumstances and situations at hand.
In the moments of highest anxiety for me, I will think about Jared and the kids and realize that no matter how poorly I perform, I will come home that night and my kids will not love me any less. And my husband will love me just as much. Maybe even a little bit more, because he’ll know I need it.
Jared Kushner: I’m still waiting to see the time that she doesn’t perform very well.
Evan: Thank you guys so much for watching. I love to know what did you think of this video.
What lesson did you learn that you love the most about this?
How do you keep things in perspective for yourself?
Leave it down in the comments below and I’m join in the discussion.
I also want to give a quick shout out to Takosha Swan. Thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book, Your One Word. It really, really, really, really means a lot to me.
So thank you guys again for watching. I believe in you. I hope you continue to believe in yourself. And whatever your one word is. Much love. I’ll see you soon.
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