“You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward … That’s how winning is done!” – From Sylvester Stallone in Rocky Balboa.
This quote from Rocky Balboa contains the essence of how people succeed. Although they make success look easy, most successful people became that way by overcoming life’s challenges and obstacles rather than allowing themselves to get defeated by them. It points to the importance of rising back up with determination when you fall down, and not allowing life’s blows to stop you from trying.
To be sure, the school of life is the greatest teacher of all, and the amount of success and happiness we achieve will be largely a result of our ability to “roll with the punches” and “bounce back” from adversity.
It’s easy to coast when life goes your way and you feel like you are on a winning team. Successful people respond no less enthusiastically when things don’t go their way, energized to keep moving forward, preparing themselves to be on the winning team in the next round!
These are the 5 essential habits that successful people share that you can adopt too:
1. Successful people are defined by their determination and their dreams, and not their fears, failures and disappointments.
They learn from setbacks rather than let themselves be held back by them. Each setback becomes important feedback on the road to future success. They refuse to be held back by fear, and are willing to take a certain amount of prudent risk to grow and evolve.
2. Successful people refuse to the live in the Land of “If Onlys” and “Woulda, Coulda, Shouldas.”
Rather than living life through cloudy lenses of what could have or should have been, they stop beating themselves up for not making different choices that are now so obvious in hindsight. They forgive themselves and others for choices that did not turn out well despite good intentions, and refuse to be held back by the land of yesterday.It takes a certain amount of maturity to realize that the things people often run away from are actually not running after them at all!
Successful people have that mature perspective to make peace with their past rather than futilelyreworking it.
3. When successful people feel like their life is breaking into pieces, they make a beautiful mosaic.
They realize even when they feel broken or life around them is breaking, they can pick up the pieces of their lost hopes and dreams and make something even more beautiful, just different from what they had expected.
4. When their dreams donot come true, successful people are flexible enough to trade old dreams in for new dreams.
With resilience and maturity comes the realization that we outgrow some dreams as we evolve. Sometimes the dreams we expected would bring us happiness fell short and might even have fallen flat. With the ability to trade Dream A with Dream B or even Dream C, successful people reveal their inner strength of character as they let go of dreams that no longer work. They view letting go as a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness that they are quitting. Sometimes this even applies to the painful process of letting go of toxic people in their lives, no matter how much they love or loved them.
5. Successful people think more in verbs than in nouns. For example, instead of thinking “I’m a loser” they would think “I lost.” Healthier thinkers refuse to make permanent judgments on temporary states. Nouns are stagnant, and verbs are ever changing. They see themselves as a work in process.