How to Easily Identify Men That Aren't Man Enough

Thanks to Mother Nature, the world is blessed with varying species of living and non-living things alike. You needn’t look far to find a fair share of men who find a compelling display of masculinity an uphill task.

A lot of factors can make or mar your masculinity of which upbringing is an important one. Health and sexual orientation also have a role to play in male psychological development.

Some hundreds of thousands of years ago, masculinity used to be defined by military prowess. The setting was such that civilizations were constantly at war with each other and, therefore, war and military skills were the default masculinity yardsticks. In today’s world, we lend credence to intellectual and psychological prowess though the physical is not entirely out of the picture.

As humans, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and not being man enough is a function of fear and insecurity. Those who exhibit some level of masculine weakness are those who cower behind a façade of strength and let emotions get the better part of them.

Here are some qualities that help identify men with weak resolve.

1. Lack of confidence

Confidence helps you tackle your fears and take on life’s challenges. It helps maintain a positive attitude and therefore makes you manly.

Positive effects of maintaining a high confidence level include increased performance, surreal attitude to life and better interpersonal and social relations. It is one of the strongest indicators of masculinity and lack of it is a big letdown.

2. Low sexual prowess

Another defining quality of not being man enough is sexual prowess. The functionality of the male reproductive organ is generally considered to be a measure of manhood. Men with low sexual prowess often have their sexual confidence on the downside due to the inability to get a sexual partner satisfied.

If you are the shy type, then thanks to the internet, there are anonymous ways of solving this. Sexual health websites, such as have vast resources on male sexual issues which are accessible free of charge.

3. Low Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is the way we think about ourselves. It is such a strong phenomenon that it has huge effects on us. Self-esteem is directly related to self-confidence. For example, a person with high self-esteem would easily move on if jilted in a relationship.

Someone with low self-esteem, on the other hand, will have a hard time thinking he/she is not worthy enough. Ditch feelings of negativity and improve your self-esteem.

4. Bad loser

One good attitudinal drill we naturally encounter is ‘winning and losing’. Sometimes we win, sometimes we lose. While everyone will pass the winning test, the real test of character comes with how we manage our losses.

Though we all feel bitter about the losses we incur, extreme reactions are not a manly trait and should be ridden of. Be it in a game or a real life situation, watch carefully how you respond to defeat.

5. Excessive complaints

Real men don’t go about nagging and complaining about their problems. Complaints breed feelings of negativity and in actual fact solves nothing. Precious energy used in complaining could have been devoted to finding solutions to the problem at hand. An excessive complaint is a sign of weakness that doesn’t bode well for a masculine figure.

6. Ego

Part of the manliness meter of a man is the way he treats those below him. It is important to treat people with dignity and respect no matter their social and financial standing. It is a defining component of a man’s character. Men with dismissive and condescending traits are simply frail and insecure and are struggling for relevance.


Jimmy Rohampton is a freelance writer, blogger and business consultant from Southwest London. He travels the world and helps people master blogging and online marketing at Think you're interesting and he should know you? Say "Hi" to him at

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