In life unexpected situations happen, and they can take you into an emotional whirlwind. In a matter of minutes, you can feel hurt abandoned, attacked and downright mad. These moments can get you out of your original plans and into a repeat mode in your mind replaying what happened. When this happens, it is important to have a conscious way to process your emotions to come back to your equilibrium.
One of the great things about the time we are living in now is that there is information on the Internet on how to feel good. From the movie, The Secret to professional coaches and therapists, there are services more visible offering to help individuals move past traumatic events that made them feel stuck. The better we feel, the better we are able to move through life. The statement is also true when you feel bad. Feeling sad, depressed and angry for periods of time is like being a radio station on the sad channel. When you are emitting from the emotion of sad, depressed and mad, you magnetically bringing more of these life experiences to you.
Most of the time, we are not aware that we are holding ourselves to a moment in time when we replay it in our minds. The healthier process of life is to feel the emotion and acknowledge your feelings then move forward. You do have the power to choose your feelings. Moving from heavy, tense emotions takes a step by step process but you can live healthy emotionally. When you feel sad and depressed, it may be better to move to the emotion of anger. The idea is to move your feelings up the emotional ladder until you reach a more affirming feeling. The Astonishing Power of Emotions by Esther and Jerry Hicks has an emotional scale that you can see where you are emotionally and list the next higher emotion to reach for until you are content once again. Here are four steps to help you process your emotions in a healthy manner:
- Meditate/Prayer – Meditation is a great way to come back to your clear mind. Meditation reboots your thoughts and physical body relaxing you and helping you think about situations in perspective.
- Release – After meditation, releasing the situation is the next best step. Mentally releasing and putting your mind on something you can control, stops you from worrying, complaining and fussing about your problems.
- Forgiveness – When you feel hurt, or attacked forgiveness is the useful tool. Forgiveness releases you from the situation that happened and can remove you from the environment.
- Own your power – You can choose to refuse allowing anyone to steal your choice.