Are we there yet? (Becoming the Observer)

Are we there yet? Are we there yet?

I laugh when I hear that question – “Are we there yet?” As a child, I know I said it every time we went on a trip over an hour. And there were many of those! We drove regularly from Montreal Quebec to the other side of Brantford Ontario to visit my grandparents on their farm. It was a seven hour drive – so I am sure that I must have asked at least a dozen times each way on every trip!

As a Mom to four children – I also heard that question asked over and over and over!

I chuckled last week when speaking with a friend about where she was headed – and where I was headed. And she said, “I am just getting so impatient!” I know the feeling well.

Unfortunately many of us are impatient about where we want to go in life. If we are focusing on growth and advancement in our businesses, and we are thinking from the end, sometimes coming back to momentary reality just plain sucks.

I talk often about thinking from the end, seeing ourselves as already achieving whatever it is we set out to achieve. Learning to visualize is a big part of the success we will achieve. However, each time we become impatient with ourselves, we are taking our focus off where we want to be and thinking about what we do not yet have! And folks, what we think upon grows! When we focus on what we do not have or have not yet achieved – we just attract more of the lack!

I am sometimes pulled back to reality when I get asked questions about my business. “How many members do you have? Is there a chapter in upper Timbuktoo?” As much as I want to see myself with ten thousand members, or with a chapter in every city on Canada and the United States, unfortunately I am not there yet. When I answer truthfully to the person that asks the question I want so much to let them in on my vision. Because in reality, I spend my time acting ‘as if’. In other words , I plan my business as if I have ten thousand members. I go to speak at a meeting as if there are five hundred people.

I recently heard a millionaire mentor of mine talk about his goal setting experiences. He said that in 1978 he made the goal of becoming a millionaire. But it did not happen in the first year. And it did not happen in the second year – or third year or fourth year.

When year five rolled around, I am sure he began to ask himself if it would ever happen. But instead of focusing on what he had not achieved, he instead focused on what he HAD achieved. And he was grateful for that. He also learned to appreciate himself for the work he had put in and things he had accomplished. Gratitude and appreciation are not only the greatest forms of love, but they are also the fast track to Law of Attraction and attracting into your life the things you need to get to where you want to go.

In the end it took sixteen years to reach his goal. That is 5,840 mornings of getting up and being tempted to feel impatient. Fortunately, he had developed appreciation and love for himself which fed the belief in himself that he could accomplish the goal.

The trick to not becoming frustrated about lack of progress – is to become the observer of your own life. Be curious about the great things that may happen next. Step outside yourself and look in at the wonder of your own life.

Become grateful for the progress you have made and know deep inside it will happen – it is just a matter of ‘when’.

Enjoying the journey to our own success is really what makes it all worthwhile. Stepping outside our lives and reality, and looking at what we have created and being grateful for what we have will bring what you want - faster. Looking in from the outside, it is also much easier to become excited about what is going on in our own lives.

Don’t become frustrated at your lack of progress. Instead focus on the long term view and take a look at your life from the perspective of the observer – it is a fantastic view!

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Mandie Crawford is a marketing expert, business coach, trainer and motivational speaker who was recently awarded Calgary Business Woman of the Year for her contributions to the business community.

Mandie also has skills and expertise in providing high quality guidance in time management and system implementation for small a medium sized businesses. Her passion as a business and professional development coach is to helps women recognize their value and self worth.

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