How To Stop Dreaming and Start Living Your Dreams
Six years ago, I attended a seminar that opened me up to the unlimited world of goal setting and accomplishment. Among other things, I was made to write down a list of 50 things that I’d love to do before I die.
We were supposed to fantasize and write down anything we can ever wish for. I did, and it felt so good.
One of the things I wrote down was that I was going to be a good swimmer. As of the time of writing that however, I had never entered a swimming pool.
Six years later, I stumbled on my list and suddenly realized that I still hadn't entered a swimming pool. Six long years had passed, and I still hadn’t even swum.
That was a painful realization.
I was busy waiting for the right time without knowing that life was already fleeting past me. That realization helped me make up my mind then that I was going to start living my best life “immediately”.
I told myself I wasn’t going to wait for right conditions anymore. Whatever seemed right to do was to be done immediately; no questions asked. And the first dream I decided tofulfillwas to swim.
No more dreaming about it, I needed to wake up and just do it. One week later, I did, and I felt accomplished.
Probably you’re like me. You talk of doing lots of things and at the end you do none of them. There’s a way out.
Below are 5 ways you can dream, wake up and do more:
1. Create a mental picture of your desired outcome.
You cannot arrive at a future you cannot see. If you desire to see your dreams fulfilled, you need to create a mental picture of your dreams.
You can do this by writing down specifically what you want to achieve. It is just like the goal list of 50 things I talked about earlier.
You can even take it up a notch higher, get and paste pictures that represent your dreams.
For instance if your desired future is to lose 100 pounds, you can get a picture of someone that has the weight you desire. Remove the head and fix your own head, and paste the picture beside your mirror.
Visualizing your desired outcome regularly will wake you up and propel you to start working on your dreams.
2. Stop asking “what if” and start acting “as if".
When asked about how they made it to the Moon, the late astronaut James Irwin said they were literally 'thrown' in the direction of the moon. According to him, they had to adjust their course every ten minutes.
Everything does not have to work out perfectly as projected. You may not dictate the exact direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sail.
Stop expecting things to go wrong. They could, but the fear of imperfection should not stop you from pursuing your dreams. Instead make adequate plans for the worst, and act as if the best is what will happen.
3. Reject the Myth of Perfection.
Perfection is a myth. Expecting perfection from yourself for everything you want to do will stop you from doing anything.
Accept that your first result may not be the best. Your first business may fail. Should that make you give up on your business dreams? Absolutely not!
Most successful people did not get it right at the first trial. You may not too, but that should not stop you. Rather determine to try again more intelligently if you don’t get it right the first time.
4. Give yourself a deadline.
A goal without a deadline is a fantasy. Deadlines are there to make you cultivate a sense of urgency. They will push you and make you deliver beyond what you could ever imagine.
For instance, when I finally decided to swim, I gave myself a deadline. That deadline made me to escape the trap of perpetual procrastination.
Likewise, don’t just decide to do it, attach a deadline to it. This will give you most of the motivation you need to act.
5. Make yourself accountable to someone.
When I finally decided to go swimming, I didn’t stop at giving myself a deadline, I made myself accountable to my friend KC. He made it his job to check up on me to make sure I didn’t chicken out at the last minute.
Making yourself accountable to someone will push you to take action when you don’t feel like it.
The “easy thing” is to hang out at coffee shops and talk about things you are “going to do someday”. It is easy to talk about the businesses you will start, the book you will write, or the vacation you will go for.
It is super-easy to dream and say these things, but fulfilling them is the hard part. Get off that easy path. Don’t be the “easy person”.
Choose rather to wake up and bring your dreams to fruition.