Evan: She’s a media producer, actress, talk show host, and philanthropist.
She’s best known for her talk show.
She is worth three billion dollars.
She’s Oprah and here are her top 10 rules for success.
Oprah Winfrey’s Rules
- Understand the next right move
- Seize your opportunity
- Everyone makes mistakes
- Work on yourself
- Run the race as hard as you can
- We are all seeking the same thing
- Find your purpose
- Stay grounded
- Relax, it’s going to be okay
Oprah Winfrey’s Top 10 Rules For Success
Rule #1. Understand The Next Right Move
The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself, what is the next right move? Not think about oh I got all of this to do. What is the next right move? And then from that space, make the next right move and the next right move. And not to be overwhelmed by it because you know your life is bigger than that one moment. You know you’re not defined by what somebody says is a failure for you because failure is just there to point you in a different direction.
Rule #2. Seize Your Opportunity
Nothing about my life is lucky, nothing. A lot of grace, a lot of blessings, a lot of divine order, but I don’t believe in luck. For me luck is preparation meeting the moment of opportunity. There is no luck without you being prepared to handle that moment of opportunity and so what I would say for myself is that because of my hand in a hand and a force greater than my own, I had been prepared in ways that I didn’t even know I was being prepared for. And the truth is, for me and for every person, every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for the moment that is to come.
Rule #3. Everyone Makes Mistakes
You don’t have to hold yourself hostage to who you used to be or anything you ever used to do ’cause who has lived and hasn’t made mistakes? When I think about my 20s and what a foolish girl I was and how I would give over my power to men who really didn’t mean me well, but now I hold no grudges against them either because I realized, I’m the one who gave over the power because I didn’t know any better. And now that I know better, I know I don’t have to do that again. It’s one of the most powerful lessons any of us can ever know.
Rule #4. Work On Yourself
I say to my girls all of the time that your real work is to figure out where your power base is and to work on the alignment of your personality, your gifts that you have to give, with the real reason why you’re here. That’s the number one thing you have to do. Is to work on yourself and to fill yourself up and keep your cup full, keep yourself full. Now I used to be afraid of that, I used to be afraid. Particularly from people who say, “Oh she’s so full of herself, she’s so full.”
And now I embrace it, I consider it a compliment that I am full of myself because only when you’re full, I’m full, I’m overflowing, my cup runneth over, I have so much to offer and so much to give and I am not afraid of honoring myself. It’s miraculous when you think about it.
Rule #5. Run The Race As Hard As You Can
I would say to my team, “Welp, doesn’t matter.” ‘Cause every season somebody else was coming out. One talk show, two talk shows, three talk shows, there’d been over a 100 talk shows since we started, but every time, I would feel like alright, got to step up our game, got to step up our game. The way you step up your game is not to worry about the other guy in any situation ’cause you can’t control the other guy.
You cannot control the other guy, you only have control over yourself. So it’s like running a race, the energy that it takes to look back and see where the other guys are, takes energy away from you and if they’re too close it scares you. So that’s what I would say to my team all the time. Don’t waste your time in the race looking back to see where the other guy is or what the other guy is doing. It’s not about the other guy, it’s about what can you do? You just need to run that race as hard as you can. You need to give it everything you’ve got all the time for yourself.
Rule #6. #Believe
My grandmother was a maid, that’s all she ever knew. The only real expectation she held for me was that I would one day become a maid and in her words, “Have some good white folks,” meaning people who would not speak negatively about me, who would allow me to take food home, who would be good to me. Would treat me with some level of dignity and respect, that was my grandmother’s dream for me, but I had another dream for myself.
Another, more than a dream, I had a belief for myself. And I remember watching her hang out clothes on a line one day and say to me, “You have to watch me Oprah Gail “’cause one day you’ll have to do this for yourself,” and knowing inside myself that that was not going to be my life. Don’t know how I knew it other than that thing that we all have, intuition or instinct, that said no this will not be my life.
But because I sense that and was connected to that, and I remember it was a very still moment. It was quiet and I was still and I was watching her, I could see her right now with the clothespins in her mouth and putting them on the line and seeing the breath, because it was cold, the moisture coming from her lips, and I knew that that would not be my life. I knew that I would not be hanging clothes on a line in a backyard in Mississippi.
So I was either four or five years old and that belief that that would not be my life is what I held onto for the longest of times. I just, no matter what, believed that there was something bigger, greater, more for me.
Rule #7. We Are All Seeking The Same Thing
I always understood that there really was no difference between me and the audience. At times, I might have had better shoes, but at the core of what really matters, that we are the same. And you know how I know that? ‘Cause all of us are seeking the same thing. You’re here at this fabulous school and will go out into the world and each pursue, based upon what you believe your talents are, what your skills are, maybe your gifts are.
But you’re seeking the same thing. Everybody wants to fulfill the highest truest expression of yourself as a human being. That’s what you’re looking for, the highest truest expression of yourself as a human being. And because I understand that, I understand that if you’re working in a bakery, and that’s where you want to be, and that may be what you always wanted to do, is to bake pies for people or bake cakes for people or to offer your gift, then that’s for you and there’s no difference between you and me except that’s your platform, that’s your show every day. So my understanding of that has allowed me to-
Host: Reach everyone.
To reach everyone and there’s no way that you wouldn’t because that’s what I truly feel.
Rule #8. Find Your Purpose
A lot of people don’t know their purpose and if you don’t know your purpose, your immediate goal is to figure that out ’cause other wise you’re just wondering around here. So the moment you can figure out what it is you’re supposed to be doing, the sooner you’re able to get about the business of doing that.
Rule #9. Stay Grounded
My life is fueled by my being and the being fuels the doing so I come from a centered place, I come from a focused place. I come from compassion, it’s just my nature, I come from a willingness to understand and to be understood and I come from wanting to connect. The secret of that show for 25 years is that people could seem themselves in me all over the world, they could see themselves in me. And even as I became more and more financially successful, which was a big surprise to me, it was like oh my God, this is so exciting.
Host: You mean you got more than that 30 thousand.
I got more than 30 thousand by the time I was 30. But what I realized is through the whole process because I’m grounded in my own self, that although I could have more shoes, my feet stayed on the ground, although I was wearing better shoes. These are kind of cute today, too. So I could keep my feet on the ground even though I could get more shoes and I could understand that it really was because I was grounded. I was doing, and continue to this day, to do the consciousness work. I work at staying awake.
Rule #10. Relax, It’s Going To Be Okay
Dear beautiful brown-skinned girl. And I use the word beautiful because I know that’s never a word you would call yourself. I look into your eyes and I see the light and hope of myself. In this photo, you’re just about to turn 20, posing outside the television station where you were recently hired as a reporter. You look calm, you look happy, but I know how scared you are. If I could say anything to you it would be, relax, it’s going to be okay girl.
Thank you guys so much for watching. I made this video because Valerie Brown asked me to so if there’s a famous entrepreneur that you want me to pull from next, leave it in the comments below. I’ll see what I can do. I’d also love to know which of Oprah’s top 10 rules you connected with the most, leave it in the comments and we’re going to join the discussion. Thank you so much for watching. Continue to believe and I’ll see you soon.
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