Three years ago, I went skydiving in Dubai. Right, skydiving is a really interesting confront with fear, right? So I got to stand up, so I got to stand up. So, all your friends, what happens is you go, sorry, I dropped my pen. So what happens is you go out the night before and you take a drink with your friends.
And somebody says, “hey, we should go skydiving tomorrow!” and you go, “Yeah, we’ll go skydiving, yeah!” “Yeah” everybody goes, “Yeah!” and you go home by yourself you like, “Umm.” Right, you like, “Well, they was drunk too.” “right, so, maybe they not, I mean” “we don’t have to go.” “We don’t have to do it.” And then that night you’re laying in your bed and you just keep, “Uhh, uhh” and you’re terrified.
You keep imagining over and over again jumping out of an airplane and you can’t figure out why you would do that. Right, and you’re laying there and you have the worst night’s sleep of your life but you still have the hope that your friends were drunk.
You wake up the next day and you go down where you said you would meet and everybody’s there. And you’re like, “Ah, oh, cool, cool, cool, cool.” Right, so you get in the van and you don’t know that your friends had the same night that you had, cause they’re pretending like they didn’t.
In that moment you realize that you’ve never been in a friggin’ airplane with the door open.
They’re like, “Yeah, my uncle’s a Navy SEAL,” “and hey, you know, it’s going to be great.” “I’ve been looking forward to this.” so you like, “Oh my God, oh my God!” and your stomach is terrible, you can’t eat and everything. But you don’t want to be the only punk who doesn’t jump out of this airplane.
So you get there and then you have this safety brief. And the guys are telling you, “Well, if the chute doesn’t open” “what’s going to happen is you’re going to” well, what what could happen that the chute wouldn’t open? Right, so you do a thing and what you do is your first jump you’re attached to a guy who’s going to walk you out.
So you go and you get there and there’s an airplane and nobody’s stopping, everybody’s still going. So you get onto the airplane and you’re sitting there and you know it’s extra because you’re sitting on some dude’s lap, some stranger, you’re sitting on his lap.
And you’re trying to make small talk, “Yeah, man.” “So you be jumpin’ with people all the time, huh?” So, you know, and then you got to make sure. “You got kids, right, you got people you need to see.” Right, you want to make sure he’s serious.
And you get in there, so everything’s normal. So you fly, you go up and you go up. You go up to 14,000 feet and you notice there’s a light, it’s red and it’s yellow and green, right. So, right now the light’s red, and you think at some point the light’s going to go green. And you don’t know what’s going to happen.
Right, and you wait and it goes yellow, and the light goes green, and somebody opens the door. And in that moment you realize that you’ve never been in a friggin’ airplane with the door open.
You realize at the point of maximum danger is the point of minimum fear.
Right, terror, I’m sorry I’m spitting. I’m sorry, terror, terror, terror, terror! Right, so you go and then if you were smart you sat in the back so you don’t go first. Right, and then people start going out of the airplane. And you go, and the guy walks you up to the end of the thing. And you’re standing at your toes are on the edge, and you’re looking out down to death. And they say, “On three!” And they say, “One, two!” and he pushes you on two because people grab on three, right.
Right, and you go, “Uhhhh!” you fall out of the airplane and in one second you realize that it’s the most blissful experience of your life, you’re flying. Right, it doesn’t feel like falling, right. You’re actually kind of held a little bit by the wind and then you start, you start falling, you’re falling, and there’s zero fear. You realize at the point of maximum danger is the point of minimum fear.
It’s bliss! It’s bliss! And you’re flying, right, and you’re doing it and then 20 seconds, 25 seconds, 40 seconds, and you have enough time to like, “There’s that building, that’s how I like” “Oh, you can see the ocean!” Right, you start doing all of that, and the lesson for me is why were you scared in your bed the night before?
What do you need that fear for? Just don’t go! Why are you scared in your bed 16 hours before you jump? Why are you scared in the car? Why could you not enjoy breakfast? What did you need, fear is, fear of what? You’re nowhere even near the airplane. Everything up to the stepping out, there’s actually no reason to be scared. It only just ruins your day.
Forget security, live for experience.
You don’t have to jump. And then in that moment, all of sudden when you should be terrified, is the most blissful experience of your life. And God placed the best things in life on the other side of terror. On the other side of your maximum fear are all of the best things in life. You know, so that was sorry. Sorry, that was my experience with skydiving and fear.
So practically speaking.
But I didn’t like that take, I’m going to do it again. I can sell it better. I can sell that better. The confrontation with fear is an absolute magical way of facing the things we have to do in this life, you know. Forget security, live for experience.